[Trace14]

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017...irl-inside-me/

Healing the Little Girl Inside of Me.
by Stephanie Parry

Dear One,

It’s alright to to feel all the emotions that you have bubbling up inside of you. It’s okay to share those feelings and to able to say the things that you are thinking.
It’s not okay for other voices to dismiss those or tell you that they are wrong or bad. They are jealous and they want to keep you in the place where they believe you should stay for their own comfort.
There will be many that will use you and take advantage of the kindness that you offer. They will step on you when you are up and keep you down to feel more important. They will misunderstand your tender heart.
They will put you in a box and expect you to stay there for safe keeping, only to retrieve you from that place when they want you for their own selfish desires.
They will expect many things from you and give little in return. They will misjudge your intentions and project their own fears onto you. They will hurt you when they are in pain so that they can feel better. They will cut you with words and blame you for your tears.
They will mock what you value most.
But, if I could tell you what I wished I could have heard so many years ago, this is what I would say—after I wrap my arms around you in a tight embrace and wipe away your tears:
You are perfectly fine just the way that you are! You are strong. Beautiful. Good.
You do not have to be anyone else, but you.
If there is anything I could give you, it would be the ability for others to see you the way that I do now. That others could understand your kindness, your gentle and fierce heart. That you would be appreciated and loved back in the same way that you love others. That the ones you give so unselfishly to would be able to see into your soul the way that you understand and feel the complexities of their own souls.
If there is anything I could help you to understand, it would be that you could see yourself the way that I do now. You are important and you matter.
How amazing you are comes from your own inner knowledge that you are enough, just as you are, in this very moment. And, even if no one can see you for who you truly are, know that somewhere inside of you is all the love that you need for yourself.
Because you are love.
~
Author: Stephanie Parry
Image: Chinh Le Duc/Unsplash
Editor: Lieselle Davidson

[Open Eyes]

It’s alright to to feel all the emotions that you have bubbling up inside of you. It’s okay to share those feelings and to able to say the things that you are thinking.
It’s not okay for other voices to dismiss those or tell you that they are wrong or bad. They are jealous and they want to keep you in the place where they believe you should stay for their own comfort.

If only someone would say this, thanks for posting this Trace.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

If only someone would say this, thanks for posting this Trace.

I thought maybe others could relate to this story, even if just a small part.

[TrailRunner14]

It touched me deeply. Thank you.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

It touched me deeply. Thank you.

You're very welcome

[it'sgrowtime]

Originally Posted by Trace14

I thought maybe others could relate to this story, even if just a small part.

Nice story. I just wrote a post about the little girl inside me and how to love her. Then I see this

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by it'sgrowtime

Nice story. I just wrote a post about the little girl inside me and how to love her. Then I see this

It's a topic that can't be talked about too much

Honestly, I don't want to feel most of my emotions. About the only emotion that I enjoy feeling is anger because at least I am motivated to get stuff accomplished when I'm angry.

Sadness, hopelessness, anxiety, fear; these are emotions I can live without and avoid feeling at all costs.

[Fuzzybear]

Thank you for posting this Trace

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Honestly, I don't want to feel most of my emotions. About the only emotion that I enjoy feeling is anger because at least I am motivated to get stuff accomplished when I'm angry.

Sadness, hopelessness, anxiety, fear; these are emotions I can live without and avoid feeling at all costs.

I agree. It's sad that is our most comfortable emotion, but I feel more in control when I'm mad.

[SoupDragon]

I wish I could feel those things about the younger me. I still struggle to like her at all.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I wish I could feel those things about the younger me. I still struggle to like her at all.

How did you find her? Why don't you like her? You don't have to answer of course.

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by Trace14

How did you find her? Why don't you like her? You don't have to answer of course.

I guess I have always sensed her and blame her for everything. If she didn't exist, I think my life would have been happier......yet logically know I can't have "me" without "her".

I can happily be very mean to her.

Originally Posted by Trace14

I agree. It's sad that is our most comfortable emotion, but I feel more in control when I'm mad.

As a purely logical individual, I can attest to the fact that certain human emotions, such as sadness, have no practical purpose behind them. These feelings do nothing to benefit our ability to survive or thrive as a species, therefore, sadness or other similar feelings are pointless and accomplish nothing more than make us weaker. The same could be said about fear and guilt to a lesser extent. Fear had it's place back in prehistoric times when we were hunter-gatherers and braved many dangers to survive but is utterly pointless now to anybody that isn't fighting wars or other dangers on a regular basis. Guilt is also pointless to a lesser degree because being guilty over something like hurting somebody's feelings or standing up to an abuser or bully is illogical. Yes, feeling guilty for something that could actually threaten your well being or survival, such as hurting a loved one, breaking the law, or upsetting somebody dangerous that could easily take you down are logical applications of guilt. Feeling guilt for anything less severe is an illogical fallacy.

Anger, on the other hand, does wonders for our survival. If we are pissed off, we are motivated to make important changes in our life. We are stronger and better when we're angry. We are more motivated to survive. Anger is the only emotion worth feeling when there are things seriously wrong with your life.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

As a purely logical individual, I can attest to the fact that certain human emotions, such as sadness, have no practical purpose behind them. These feelings do nothing to benefit our ability to survive or thrive as a species, therefore, sadness or other similar feelings are pointless and accomplish nothing more than make us weaker. The same could be said about fear and guilt to a lesser extent. Fear had it's place back in prehistoric times when we were hunter-gatherers and braved many dangers to survive but is utterly pointless now to anybody that isn't fighting wars or other dangers on a regular basis. Guilt is also pointless to a lesser degree because being guilty over something like hurting somebody's feelings or standing up to an abuser or bully is illogical. Yes, feeling guilty for something that could actually threaten your well being or survival, such as hurting a loved one, breaking the law, or upsetting somebody dangerous that could easily take you down are logical applications of guilt. Feeling guilt for anything less severe is an illogical fallacy.

Anger, on the other hand, does wonders for our survival. If we are pissed off, we are motivated to make important changes in our life. We are stronger and better when we're angry. We are more motivated to survive. Anger is the only emotion worth feeling when there are things seriously wrong with your life.

Interesting perspective, though I can not agree or disagree with it. I just know that I don't like feeling angry and want to get to a place where that is not my main emotion. It's just a personal choice thing.

Originally Posted by Trace14

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017...irl-inside-me/

Healing the Little Girl Inside of Me.
by Stephanie Parry

Dear One,

It’s alright to to feel all the emotions that you have bubbling up inside of you. It’s okay to share those feelings and to able to say the things that you are thinking.
It’s not okay for other voices to dismiss those or tell you that they are wrong or bad. They are jealous and they want to keep you in the place where they believe you should stay for their own comfort.
There will be many that will use you and take advantage of the kindness that you offer. They will step on you when you are up and keep you down to feel more important. They will misunderstand your tender heart.
They will put you in a box and expect you to stay there for safe keeping, only to retrieve you from that place when they want you for their own selfish desires.
They will expect many things from you and give little in return. They will misjudge your intentions and project their own fears onto you. They will hurt you when they are in pain so that they can feel better. They will cut you with words and blame you for your tears.
They will mock what you value most.
But, if I could tell you what I wished I could have heard so many years ago, this is what I would say—after I wrap my arms around you in a tight embrace and wipe away your tears:
You are perfectly fine just the way that you are! You are strong. Beautiful. Good.
You do not have to be anyone else, but you.
If there is anything I could give you, it would be the ability for others to see you the way that I do now. That others could understand your kindness, your gentle and fierce heart. That you would be appreciated and loved back in the same way that you love others. That the ones you give so unselfishly to would be able to see into your soul the way that you understand and feel the complexities of their own souls.
If there is anything I could help you to understand, it would be that you could see yourself the way that I do now. You are important and you matter.
How amazing you are comes from your own inner knowledge that you are enough, just as you are, in this very moment. And, even if no one can see you for who you truly are, know that somewhere inside of you is all the love that you need for yourself.
Because you are love.
~
Author: Stephanie Parry
Image: Chinh Le Duc/Unsplash
Editor: Lieselle Davidson

That was so beautiful and made me want to cry, Thank you for posting that

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Hummingbird1

That was so beautiful and made me want to cry, Thank you for posting that

You are most welcome and welcome to PC.