[MissE1088]

stop thinking and feeling like you just want things to go back to the way they used to be? this feeling is taking control of me. i don't want to feel this way anymore but its like a knife in my heart, it is so hard to continue. i just want to find something that makes me happy, but nothing does. ugh..

[Belle1979]

I don't have an answer but I can tell you that you are not alone.
I am trying to find the reasons that I hold on to the past for so long... its a long and troubled path to follow.

[sad nana]

I too wish that we could go back & have things be the way they used to be. But that will never happen. I just have to live in the moment. For instance, my hubby & I had a great sex life until I had my 2nd nervous breakdown almost a year ago. Now we have nothing, partly because I removed myself from him by sleeping in another room. I just started sleeping in our bedroom with him about a week ago. I want to have the same type of relationship with him. I told my T today, and she said that it's going to take some time for this to happen given that I isolated myself from him and from everyone. She told me to be direct with him about my desire to make love again. I wonder if things will ever be the way they used to be. I hate my depression because it took over all my relationships and took away my true inner self!!

[phoenix7]

Originally Posted by MissE1088

stop thinking and feeling like you just want things to go back to the way they used to be? this feeling is taking control of me. i don't want to feel this way anymore but its like a knife in my heart, it is so hard to continue. i just want to find something that makes me happy, but nothing does. ugh..

first you have to admit that things rarely go back to what they were - you have to stop looking back and move forward - build on the present for the future - all we can do is learn from the past - grieve for the parts that are lost and adjust and move on (easier sad than done)

Originally Posted by Belle1979

I don't have an answer but I can tell you that you are not alone.
I am trying to find the reasons that I hold on to the past for so long... its a long and troubled path to follow.

JMO but it usually means you havnt healed fully form whatever the pain was - and dealt with all the emotions to do wiht that

Originally Posted by sad nana

I too wish that we could go back & have things be the way they used to be. But that will never happen.

true nothing can ever be quite the same and living in the moment - being present is a good thing

I just have to live in the moment. For instance, my hubby & I had a great sex life until I had my 2nd nervous breakdown almost a year ago. Now we have nothing, partly because I removed myself from him by sleeping in another room. I just started sleeping in our bedroom with him about a week ago. I want to have the same type of relationship with him. I told my T today, and she said that it's going to take some time for this to happen given that I isolated myself from him and from everyone. She told me to be direct with him about my desire to make love again. I wonder if things will ever be the way they used to be.

yes depression makes us do the very thing that can make our depression worse - isolate ourselves and cut off those who love us from us

I hate my depression because it took over all my relationships and took away my true inner self!!

your true inner self is still there - battered and bruised maybe - and partially hiding and unsure - but stil there - I truly hope things work out for you and your husband and everyone here

[shezbut]

That sure is a toughie! If you ever find the answer to that question, you'd become a millionaire.

Part of life is learning. We grow as we learn. Some lessons are real painful to accept, like abuse, but the growth comes when we accept the painful lessons. In my opinion, acceptance is sometimes extremely difficult!! It is a necessary part of our lives in this world though.

You aren't alone. Many of us are struggling with our memories ~ sharing our experiences and perspective with one another helps us all get through. It isn't an overnight process. Sometimes, we may take one or two steps backward, but we keep trying to get through the maze to acceptance.