[Wallowa]

Hi all. I'm working on letting go with love. I've been out of my primary relationship about three years now, and think of it nearly every day. I think this is a form of addiction - to the relationship or to wanting to be loved. I've been looking for al-anon type groups in hopes that will be helpful. As I understand it, there is only AA here and I tried that, but felt out of place.

I've also got a bout of depression (and the season tends to be difficult) to contend with. I am doing better than I was by getting out even when I don't want to, exercising, eating better, working with my doc, doing creative things, and playing with giving and volunteering as much as I can.

I feel tired and alone today, and would love some smiling thoughts and especially some feedback from al-anon type folks - I've been doing the reading in the absence of a group and it helps. But I would like "more, please!"

Love, K

[shezbut]

(((K)))

You're doing great things to make it through the depression. I have tried similar things, to make it through light and darker times. I currently volunteer at an elder network as both a visitor as well as a relief (for the primary caregiver). I have chosen to stick with one elderly lady, which has provided me with some hope and enjoyment in my life.

I am not religious in any way, but I do gather strength from the beauty of nature. It just gives me a small sense of peace ~ in loneliness, angry, sad, etc. Nature (leaves, trees, birds, clouds, etc.) is my reminder that life goes on. Things will change.

Those things help me. Hugs in here help me too! Best wishes to you

[awalkinthewoods14]

i agree that this is such a hard thing to go through. i think that you're going about it wonderfully though! its a long and hard process but the fact that you recognize what's going and and are working to change it can only make things better in the long run. keep it up!