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Mar 17, 2011, 02:30 PM
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i just dont know wat to do my mother keeps fighting for custody of me an di just cant take the guilt anymore i want to forgive my mother but i just dont know how with out giving her the idea that i want to go back and live with her.
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Mar 18, 2011, 10:45 AM
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As her daughter, you have the right to try to talk to her about it without worrying about an agenda. I mean that you can say "I love you and want you in my life" without it meaning that you want to live with her. You can tell her you're happy where you are living now if that's how you feel.
It's great that you care about how your mom feels, but she's the adult. You're not responsible for protecting her. If she is sad that you feel that way, she can deal with that on her own. You don't have to feel guilty for wanting what you want. You can also choose to forgive her in your heart but try not see her very much if it's too hard for you right now. You can forgive her and never see her again. If you do that, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It's okay for you to take care of yourself. This must be a really hard time. I am sending you safe hugs and positive thoughts. |
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Mar 18, 2011, 12:10 PM
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You are in my thoughts, webb1997.
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Mar 18, 2011, 12:59 PM
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thank you for the advice and she just doesnt understand that im happy where i am. But when i try to forgive her she does something to make me mad again the last time that she called me was in december and she only call's 2 a year but she wants me to live w/ her
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Mar 18, 2011, 07:59 PM
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It must be really frustrating that she can't see your side of things. You have a caring heart if you're trying so hard to be forgiving!
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Mar 19, 2011, 08:26 AM
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don't know your age but teens can request a particular parent (in the court system) to live with. that could settle the matter. know u don't want to hurt your mom but you deserve to not feel you're being pulled at both ends.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Mar 19, 2011, 09:06 AM
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Can you talk to someone in school? Or to a police man? Or perhaps to the person you are staying with?
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Mar 24, 2011, 06:54 PM
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yes i can but i thin she gave up again
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