[gerrithegirl69]

Hi,
I am gerrithegirl69 - writing to you because after so many years in therapy, I still am anxious and timid in social cicumstances. I go through so much anxiety prior to going - once I get therre most of the time I'm okay. Why can't I make myself understand that the anxiety is not needed because I'm pretty much fine once I get there. I'm trying to put the ghosts and fears behind me, but I can't seem to do it. I understand intelectually that these people are not my family who never accepted me and sexually abused me, and that I am safe now, when inside I don't feel safe.

Thanks for any fedback posted - Gerri

[Leed]

Hi Gerri ~ I do the same thing. I think it's just fear of the unknown. We imagine ALL kinds of different scenarios -- and none of them ever happen.

It's the same with me --- I USED to drink alot before going to any social function because that would give me the 'nerve" I needed to go. But since I'm in recovery from Alcoholism, I cannot do that anymore. LOL So I just "white-knuckle" it and full steam ahead! LOL Like you said, once I'm in there, I'm usually just fine. But if I can't find anyone that I know to talk to, I'm a nervous wreck!!

You would think at MY age, (62) that i would be over this nonsense by now, but guess it's going to continue til my dying days. LOL At least you and I both know that it's NOT going to kill us. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[SlatkaMala]

Ah yes. I am like that as well. I'll fret and fuss about going to said function, but usually I'm okay once I'm there.

Have you seen Ferris Beuller's Day off when Cameron is sitting in the car debating whether or not he will go out with Ferris for his day of cutting school? I DO THAT!