[cutebagaddict08]

I'm not sure what to do about this or if I should just leave this alone:

Backround info: I interviewed about 4 months for a position in another department at my company. I was very excited about the interview and I thought it went great, the manager mentioned at the end of the interview "I have one other interview, but I'm sure you will hear from me very soon." A few days after my interview my manger cornered me, asking me all the questions about leaving my department and was confused on why the manager I interviewed with hadn't called me yet about getting the job. I have no idea how my manager found out I interviewed (I didn't tell anyone at work. My manager just kept saying ' oh I just overheard people talking.....'), I was told by the HR rep(who handles all of the in-house transfers) that my manager kept calling up there asking if I had the position, etc, and HR didn't know any information. It was very awkward with my manager for awhile...I explained to her I did not inform her of my interview because I wasn't sure what this new department would offer me as far as hours,etc- and this was the truth. Basically, everyone involved was confused. I sure was. So, after a few weeks of not hearing anything and my manager acting very weird towards me- I call the HR rep and she told me that the manager "decided to keep looking because he wants someone with experience." I never once heard him mention anything negative about me not having direct experience in the interview, so I thought this was odd but I kept it to myself. I still had a gut feeling one of the main reasons I wasn't offered the position was because my manager butted in and such. Especially after my manager told me "i'm really glad u decided to stay." Since I didn't decide to stay, I wasn't offered the position- and my manager knew that when she said this to me.
Anyways, I was really bummed, but I learned I needed to try and move on from that. That was until I saw the position posted again a few weeks ago (and funny thing-the post says nothing about having direct department experience.) So, I called the HR rep and left several messages explaining I had a question regarding the position, and if it was a new opening or the status was changed. Well, I have yet to hear back from HR, so now I really think something is fishy about why I didn't get the position in the first place. (I am still bummed about not getting it, this is something I want to get an advanced degree in, and it's gotten to the point I've questioned my love of my job and if I even want to stay in the company.) Should I just forget all this and try to move pass it? It's totally stressing me out.

[beauflow]

cute bag addict, I'm so sad to read your story, I would be utterly confused and pondering myself if I were you..... I'm not sure what to suggest,( I get told I obses too much... So probably no good if I suggested lol???)
But good thoughts your way! And I hope you find a place that appreciates you

[cutebagaddict08]

Beauflow- Thanks for your reply and your kind words.
I totally analyze stuff, which is one thing I am working on during therapy, so I have totally been obsessing over this work thing.

Originally Posted by beauflow

cute bag addict, I'm so sad to read your story, I would be utterly confused and pondering myself if I were you..... I'm not sure what to suggest,( I get told I obses too much... So probably no good if I suggested lol???)
But good thoughts your way! And I hope you find a place that appreciates you

i totally remember when you were going through this originally.
It's awful that you are going through this and that the HR person isn't even giving you the respect of a phone call to tell you what is going on.

Here are my suggestions as an HR professional:
1) Talk to your manager and ask them directly about the situation -
Make sure you mention that you are happy to stay in this position but tell them you never heard back about your original interview and that you'd be very interested to know why you didn't get the job...for future personal and professional development.

2)I don't know what kind of company you work for, but if the HR person is in your building, is it possible for you to stop by, since they aren't answering your calls, and just ask in person what's going on...if you have the confidence to do this. You may have to handle a rejection.

3) Your other choice is to suck it up for now and not do anything, and decide if you are comfortable staying where you are, or maybe changing companies at some point.

Personally, I'd want to know something about what happened, and I've been lucky enough to work with people and for companies that provide feedback on things. I am also very obsessive and it would really make me stressed to think about...so you have to decide which is worse...obsessing for however long about "what happened" or finding out what happened and getting information that may be upsetting. i've gotten some interesting feedback on interviewing and even my personal style...and I interview people for a living...but have learned not to take it personally and have been able to overcome those constructive criticisms.

Feel free to PM me if you want more advice.

Good luck with whatever decision you make!