[Jenn1fer82]

I finally left my bf of 2 yrs about a month now. He still texts me everyday to wish me a good day but I dont ever respond back to him. I've gone back to him a few times before but this time I've had enough and have really distanced myself from him.

Lately I've been feeling very lonely and I miss being held. The nights when I have trouble sleeping I know I can have him beside me to hold me until I can fall asleep. I miss the comfort I felt from him. Every time he texts me the thoughts linger and I want to talk to him, to see him and get those old feelings back again. I do try to focus on the reasons why the relationship made me so unhappy, why he broke my heart and the frustration and anger I feel from staying in the relationship for so long. Still I have those short moments in the day and loneliness sneaks in and it just overwhelms me.

How do you ignore those lonely feelings after a break up?

[Sunna]

Distraction with something exciting may help. A new project. Sign up for a weekend sailing. Go on a long hike, or overnight trip with some local club (not alone). Sign up for a class to learn something new and potentially interesting.

Don't seek out new guy yet, because chances are he will be reminding you of the ex and the good stuff that you miss, or of the bad stuff you walked away from, and it is more likely your judgment will not be optimal.

[kaliope]

i think you are already doing wht you need to. you are remembering why you broke up with him and staying strong in your resolve to be free from this detrimental relationship.

when you are feeling those feelings, that is the time to ask yourself, what can i do to nurture me? what can i do to make myself feel cared for? how do i love myself?

being able to take care of our own needs keeps us from getting into unhealthy relationships or staying in them for the wrong reasons.