[ellaine]

I am feeling terribly lonely and I don't see the point of living anymore. I am 22, studying architecture and what I study takes a lot of effort. I barely survived last semester hoping that better times will come but they just never do. All I want is to have someone care for me - boyfriend or friends. Also I am an extremely sociable person and I really need to get out often to feel ok, but my current situation is that I am so alone I have been making efforts to make some friends the last few years but they never paid off ... I am always the one calling people, and they never call back. Not that they hate me, it's just that nobody cares or likes me enough to ever call me. People have their own social groups and they don't need me. I have an exam on Monday, but I just don't care anymore, all I can think of is how lonely and miserable I am. To sum it up, my life is hard like it is for many people, but I just don't see any point of carrying on anymore without friends. Nobody cares what will happen to me anyway

[doggiedo]

I'm sorry Ellaine. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. I can definitely relate to you not feeling like your friends care. I think they often get caught up in their own things - it's only natural. I give you a lot of credit for reaching out and making the effort to connect with people and make friends. It's a hard thing to do. Good friends are hard to find, but don't get discouraged.

Do you have a therapist or someone that you can reach out to? Being lonely definitely stinks, but hang in there.

[Mindinpieces]

I am sorry to hear you feel this way. I am new on here and you will not be alone on the pc here, there are many kind and caring people, I am sure you will get to know if you do not know them already. Please don't think you are alone, I am sure people in your life do care for you even though they may not show it or appear to. I am assuming some of your friends may be studying to, it may be that when for some strange reason that the people close to you because you are in similar situation, if you are, expect you will magically get when they are busy or not best time to contact and think you don't need to be informed of this, as we naturally expect the people close to us to understand, Which from your point of view it's easy to assume they don't care and easy to think it is something to do with you when it really is not. It is them at fault for not being kind and overlooking your feelings, I am sorry to say some people do this, we are only human. Please focus on your exam coming up this is something you may regret and it may take time to redo. Where as friendships and finding people that show you compassion and treat you as they should will never be far and can be found at almost any time if you look and give other people the chance to show you they are there for you. Please don't think that I didn't read you are the one doing calling but if people don't show the same compassion back there is nothing you can do. It doesn’t mean in time throughout your life others won’t be caring because you just don't know what or who is just round the corner. It is not easy but what is the difference in given life another chance and you said yourself you are an extremely sociable person. I am sure you will find people out there that would be lucky to know and be friends with you. You just have to look for them now and well this world is full or many people no one quite the same as the other. I am sorry if this was not helpful for you and I am a hypocrite as I myself need to change how I think and interact with people and address life. I wish you all the best and a big hug. You are worth a kind friendship and I am sure you will find one.

[shezbut]

Sorry that you are feeling so lonely and uncared about.

Have you made friends in the classes that you take? When I was in college, that was a real helpful thing for me. I'd get together with one or a few other students from the class, to study, and it really helped me get through! You may want to introduce yourself with a couple of other students in your classes to develop study groups/friends.

Doing the above just might help you feel a little better about life and your place in it. Try to have patience. People do care about you. ((hugs)) to you!

[DHolmes]

I am sorry! I am new here too and I fell alone all the time even though there are people around me kids and husband but kids are babies so they dont talk and hubby doesn't think like I do or understand so I just deal with mentality issues on my own. I too am in school and my friends don't help me I help them as well. Try explaining you need support or someone to listen.

[di meliora]

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ure-loneliness
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fri...5/METHOD=print
http://psychcentral.com/search/?Matc...liness&x=0&y=0

[ariadna]

You are going through a very sad situation, but hang in there, search the strength to make your goals a reality and be strong... bigggg hug!!!! you can do it!!

[roycer724]

Try a church or religious group. They're generally more tightly knit. You are valuable to others in this world. Sometimes in life it doesn't seem that way but it's like when someone finds a treasure that had been buried or lost. The treasure was there all along it just needed to be found. There's people out there searching for you right now. If you give up they won't find be able to find you.

[ellaine]

Thank you all for the support The truth is I realized I have one real friend who really supports me in hard times and I really appreciate her, but she lives abroad now, so I would love to make some new friends as well. And I mean real friends, not just some people who are using me and abandon me when things get rough.
Yes, I am trying to make friends with the people from my classes, and actually we are helping each other with information about exams and so on, but we never go out to have fun together. 2 days ago I asked a girl from my group in the university if she would like to go on a trip for 2-3 days after the exams are over and she said "I'll think about it" and she hasn't answered yet. Do you have any advice in general about making real lasting friendships? ( I know it's hard, it takes patience, time and so on and if you have 2-3 you are blessed) The problem is that I am shy with the people I really really like and often tend to underestimate myself thinking I am not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough, or successful enough for them. And I end up calling people that I don't like so much. It's stupid, I know, but I obviously have some self-confidence issues. Any idea how to overcome that? I also tend to underestimate myself in academics, always panicing and thinking I will fail at everything, and then in the end I do just fine. But as for academics - I can say to myself "you did it before, you will manage again", with people it is more difficult for me. Thank you in advance!