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Feb 10, 2012, 10:47 AM
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My best friend is in town for a week and a half. She's having a get together her moms tonight and I'm not going, I already explained to her why. I'm positive my ex will be there and there are alot of unresolved issues. He's not mature enough to suck it up in a social situation, and even if he did I would know in my minds eye that it's an act which would still make it uncomfortable. I'm getting together with her on Sunday with a few other friends. I was to a point prior that I wouldn't care regardless and him being in the same room with his stone cold glares and bad energy wouldn't affect me, but I'm not there today so I'm not knowingly putting myself in an uncomfortable situation, particularly one that I know will stir up crazy emotions for both of us. I guess this is progress, its for the best I know. Just a sucky spot to be in.
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Feb 10, 2012, 12:29 PM
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Justme...pat on back for being wiser!!
bj
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Feb 10, 2012, 02:04 PM
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Good, your taking the reins now and taking care of YOUR needs. Callmebj is right on target. Your gaining personal strength and empowerment. Not allowing yourself to be in uncomfortable situations is a sign of growth. Keep up the good choices.
(((((Hugs))))) Open Eyes |
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Feb 10, 2012, 02:19 PM
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your doing the right thing by not dealing with toxic people
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Feb 11, 2012, 06:11 PM
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I went, thought I was strong enough. Humiliated myself by thinking I could say hi & give him a hug, he backed off and said nooo. Then after I left I called him to ask him why he thought it was acceptable to be so rude, where I opened a can of worms and had the point drilled home he hates me. He said some hateful stuff, made me break down and just bawl. I feel like an idiot, I'm so hurt, and it's my own stupid fault.
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Feb 11, 2012, 08:03 PM
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Don't be so hard on yourself, your a good person and tried to be mature, obviously he is never going to achieve a grown up mentality. Glad you parted ways with this human, you got to have that confirmed thats all.
Now you have to continue to live your life without his imput, that is a fact. Open Eyes |
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Feb 11, 2012, 11:56 PM
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You were right about you being mature, but you should not follow up to find out and get hurt after he embarrassed you. Hate is a hard act to follow. You tried to be the better person and he is the one that holds such hate in his heart that he will live in sadness forever. You don't need people in your life like him, but again you can't let him rule where you go and what you do. Go anywhere you want and ignore him! Don't even speak to him.
If he approaches you walk away. He doesn't deserve you and you don't need him.  Be cool!Thanks for being you.
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Feb 12, 2012, 02:32 AM
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You showed a great deal of maturity by trying to be genial with him, but he showed a great deal of immaturity by his reaction. You are just fine. He's the one in the wrong here, not you.
Don't let this child of a man get you down. Keep your chin up, and stay strong. You deserve better than him anyway. |
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Feb 12, 2012, 02:38 AM
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Great advice Justme 55. You had the right idea you just didn't follow though with it. No lets beat our self up cause that's what we deserve, BULL WE DON'T! You are a far better person than him, but I understand you just had to see. Sorry it made you upset I hope you will not beat yourself up over it. Hugs to you((((((((((Justme 55))))))))))
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Feb 12, 2012, 04:15 PM
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I'm just really hurt, I could never imagine talking and degrading someone the way he did to me; yet when I retaliate to him and defend myself his digging just got worse. I consider it a lesson learnt, I feel like he deserves to be alone and knows why he is. He alienates anyone that cares for him. I'm realizing that there is a reason things didn't work out, like his hurtful words were a preview to the possibilitys of his anger, god forbid things got really serious between us & I made him angry. Oh well, Good luck to him. Im going to lick my wounds.
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Feb 12, 2012, 07:58 PM
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Justme 55, I understand the hurt. Why we do that to our self is what I don't understand. Some people can be so full of anger that they say some terrible things, no need to call anyone names or down grade the other person because of their insecurities. I am glad you are licking your wounds and moving on.
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