[*freak*]

Since they say we're not supposed to bottle it all up inside, I was wondering what to do with it. How do you guys cope with anger in a non-destructive way?

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by *freak*

Since they say we're not supposed to bottle it all up inside, I was wondering what to do with it. How do you guys cope with anger in a non-destructive way?

Hi, *freak*,

Some people say that intense exercise (aerobic exercise) helps them a lot. Some others say mindfulness meditation helps them. If you have a T, talking about your anger with T at length may help. Exploring at length the real causes of your anger, way back when, can also help.

Getting very, very clear (through focussing) on the difference between your life situation when the anger arose and your life situation now is also important, I think. For me, all the anger dates back to when I was a tiny kid and helpless. I'm not helpless now. The people who did it to me are all dead. It's just an entirely different world.

What does NOT help is drinking alcohol or consuming other drugs. That just masks the anger, it doesn't help you to get it out of your system. Tranquilizers help for a time, but, here again, they're just putting off the day when you try to analyze and get rid of the anger.

Hope this helps! Take care.

[RunningEagleRuns]

Talking to people about your problems when your calm helps me. Good luck!!!

[classicgmr15]

Originally Posted by RunningEagleRuns

Talking to people about your problems when your calm helps me. Good luck!!!

I believe that talking to people about your problems can be very beneficial as opposed to just bottling it all in and letting your anger out at the wrong time. Also I believe that by channeling that negative energy and express it to something more positive (i.e. exercise, playing sports, or video games) can make a huge difference.

[evas2012]

irritability is a common issue with the stressful world.
When I want to shout it out, I try to control it.I count the number from 1-10 if I still anger again till I calm down.
It's work on me.

[ccpur369]

maybe evas2012 is right why not have try

[ECHOES]

Face it squarely. Look right at it. It's there.
There is nothing you have to 'do'.
Think about it, about when it began, what your thoughts and fears were/are about what triggered the anger. Say it out loud or to yourself: "I am angry because (this happened)." and "I also feel hurt/afraid/disappointed/rejected/taken advantage of/left out.... etc" to help pinpoint what the anger is all about and what the triggering event means to you.
Write about it to help "put" it somewhere.
Know that it is temporary, as all things are.

[BlackHoleKid]

Something that has always worked very well for me is playing the loudest, most insane metal or industrial music I have on my iPod. I love classic metal like Judas Priest and Scorpions, and they usually help me feel happy again. ^^ Super angry, screamy industrial is good, too, and it helps to dance or headbang to it as well. I love the song "Sew My Eyes" by Terrorkade.

[Woundedheart1]

I have no idea how to cope with anger! I stuff all my feelings uts the only thing I've ever known how to do and it rake that straw to brwmeskvthe camels back and I go from 0-60 un less than a second. Furious ! I don't cry rarely smile hardly laugh but pissed and angry there I will get . I don't know how to cope with that when it comes up! What do others suggest?

[Harley47]

Depends...if it's logical, "normal" anger, I just try to distance myself from the source until I calm down and can handle it.

However...I am notorious for "raging" over Xbox. I usually just let my Xbox Rage out on the spot, though I'm at least courteous enough to mute my mic.

[cole2010]

Talking to people about your problems when your calm helps me.

[spondiferous]

The one thing I have done that helps me is to scream. Literally. Not into a pillow, though that can be a quick release. Go somewhere where you can be alone - I have done it in the middle of a school field at night - and just scream until you can't any longer. I found it worked for me because when I get angry enough the first thing I want to do is scream. I am also working with a surplus of anger lately, the kind that makes me want to lash out at people, and I believe that I am going to look into kickboxing. Somebody before (and possibly more than one somebody) suggested rigorous aerobic exercise...I need it to feel like I am actually venting the anger in an aggressive way. So I'm hoping the kickboxing will help. I am going for a 'warrior training' (re: swordplay, etc) session on Monday as well. Maybe that will help me.

[O-Dawg]

I am usually quiet when I'm angry. I have a hard time standing up to the person or people I am angry at, so I usually just talk it over with a friend or family member. I'm rarely violent. Only when I'm really feeling good inside and confident do I actually tell somebody off.

[Nams]

I too get very quiet when I am angry, unless its someone I feel safe with. Then I know that even when I do snap, which happens a lot unfortunatley they realize that I really am angry and they let me vent. If I am in a situation where I do not feel safe I wrap it up for as long as I can, then once at home I head outside and scream to the sky. I live in the boonies so no real concerns about the neighbors sending the police round lol.

Hugz
Nams

[airplane8888]

Anger is my friend, whenever I feel anger and need to defend myself; I ask myself what am I afraid of. What am I using anger for to protect myself, very few people have a right to anger. When my 93 year old Father was robbed at gun point in his home, I had a right to anger.

airplane

[in.neverland]

It's difficult to cope with anger. If I just get angry I try ti distract my thoughts, and it will pass away.
If an angry at someone because I feel hurt it takes a lot of time and trying to convince myself I'm just interpreting things wrong.
But sometimes I'm just made, I almost get into rage and just want to get into a fight. Then I just have to go trough it.

Unfortunately I think anger is as complex as any other emotion and can be very differently experienced by different people. I get so angry that I've been even thinking of joining anger management groups. I'm not violent. But I get sooo angry. I think maybe if I find why ... I don't know really.

[metalmom]

I often wonder the same thing....i can't calm down long enuff to figure it out.