[redbull]

hey, my first post here..so um, hi everyone

I have adhd and i'm extremely impulsive. I don't think about the possible outcomes of my actions and I have made so many mistakes.
My self talk is..yeah, definitely not good..ever.
I go over my mistakes again and again and pretty much can say with a certainty that I'll never do things right for anyone to be happy with me.

[Leed]

Hi ~ Since you're aware that you're impulsive, I think that it's very possible for you to fight this. For instance, before you make a decision, STOP -- and think for awhile before you do anything and then go ahead after you've thought it thru. It will take some self control, but you CAN do it !! You have to be determined tho.

YOu don't say how old you are, but is there any chance you could talk to a therapist? A good therapist would be of great help to you, I'm sure. You might give it some thought.

I wish you the best. I know this must be frustrating. But you CAN be happy with someone -- don't give up. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[redbull]

Thank you Lee, sorry I didn't see your response until now. The mods had my stuff in a holding queue because I am a new member, and then I forgot about posting this

I can't talk to a therapist because I can't afford it, and I have talked to a therapist about other problems in my past (just not about my adhd). I really don't want to bring all that stuff up again, it can be exhausting. Plus I found talking to one only makes me want to disappear into my addictions even more.

You mention "before you make a decision, STOP --and think for a while". I'm going to sound completely dumb here, but even if I do that, I'm certain that I will offend someone, or end up doing something that will make ppl wonder what the heck I was thinking. Most days I am really withdrawn and quiet because if I open up, I feel I'm sure to foul up.

I really appreciate your thoughts about this, and I'm not going to give up..like u said, its just really frustrating!