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#1
Apr 15, 2012, 02:16 AM
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lay next to him tonight. i wiash he was dead.
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 Anonymous32507, Anonymous32855, kindachaotic, Open Eyes, vin_rouge
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Apr 15, 2012, 02:56 AM
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Leave him.
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Apr 15, 2012, 03:26 AM
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What would you consider as your options?
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Apr 15, 2012, 09:23 AM
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Have you considered calling a shelter nearby and asking them what you should do?
How would he react if you slept on the sofa?
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In depression . . . faith in deliverance, in ultimate restoration, is absent. The pain is unrelenting, and what makes the condition intolerable is the...feeling felt as truth...that no remedy will come -- not in a day, an hour, a month, or a minute. . . . It is hopelessness even more than pain that crushes the soul.-William Styron |
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Apr 15, 2012, 10:07 AM
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there are options for you. abuse support groups. 911 if it's physical followed by a protection order from the courts. a lawyer who can help you use the court system. shelters for abused women. plan a getaway pack-money, keys hidden outside for your car,identifying a safe place you can go, etc. leaving him.
if this is emotional abuse or physical abusde you will find therapy helpful too. i read a book by dr.susan forward-men who hate women and the women who love them. it really helped me. i did all the above, got the support i needed, left him and so glad i got the courage to do that.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Apr 15, 2012, 10:51 AM
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im on Social Security & cant pay my own way without help. After 20 years. 4 kids & 2 grandkids he wants to pull stupid crap. THE ADVICE OF JUST LEAVE HIM IS NAIIVE !
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Apr 15, 2012, 10:54 AM
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Apr 15, 2012, 11:01 AM
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Apr 15, 2012, 04:02 PM
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Well, that is your choice. Stay or leave are the only choices.
Change is not always easy. I wish you the best. |
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Apr 16, 2012, 01:18 AM
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You would be surprised what you can do if you really want to! There is help out there. I wish you well.
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Apr 16, 2012, 01:26 AM
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Apr 16, 2012, 04:38 AM
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What do you want to see happen? And what is he doing, exactly? If he is physically abusive, you can contact the police. If you can't live on your own, there are facilities that can help you.
Echoes is right. Stay and leave are your only realistic options. |
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Apr 23, 2012, 02:53 PM
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AS you feel currently leaving not right for you, maybe see your GP/ Dr for individual counselling to see if helps the situation for both. Not sure if he would be willing to participate, but an option to think about. Please, be so mindful of your safety and When at risk try and remove yourself from the situation if possible. Is there anything triggering the abuse? Or does it happen regardless due to possible anger/ frustration issues? could try some local support groups so don't feel isolated, I hope have other support networks too. Maybe trying to work at the relationship, if felt wished to by having days out together and spending quality time. Very difficult as if feel dependant and 20 years a very long time together. Nobody should have to put up with abuse, so I hope maybe something can be worked out. However, if situation worsen's many shelters can assist and with money worries re getting help. A solution to everything it's finding the right one for yourself and partner. TAKE CARE KATE. |
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