[happysomeday]

I can't cope anymore. I've almost given up hope that my life will ever be better than this. Please somebody help me.

[Dontfeellikeme]

Hi. What can't you cope with? Cx

[regretful]

It gets better...someone once told me this, and I find it helpful when I'm having trouble coping: "Like all other things, this too shall pass."

[happysomeday]

I just can't cope with living. I don't have the skills I guess. Everyday I think maybe today I'll feel better but everyday gets harder and harder. I'm not asking for the world, I just want inner-peace.

[dailyhealing]

I don't know enough about you to give you much advice or thoughts. I'm sorry you are hurting. I guess what I'd want to know is what you are trying or have tried to feel better. Maybe you could share some of that and people could give you some thoughts about things you could do! Thanks for posting and I hope things start to get better for you!

[happysomeday]

I journal everyday and I've been through DBT so I've learned those skills. But no matter how much I distract or self-soothe I still end up hating myself at the end of the day. I'm a single 49 year old female and I feel like I have nothing to show for any of those years.

[CloudyDay99]

I can really relate to your pain. I am a single 47 year old woman who often feels the same. The past year has been especially bad and I have gone through many days of self-loathing. Part of me wanted to show myself that I could hate myself more than anyone one else could. I was better at it than all the people at work who avoid me or the indifference of my family.

What has helped me stop or at least shorten these episodes of self loathing is looking at small things. Instead of focusing on what I should have done, I am trying to focus on just today. If that is too big, I focus on this hour or this moment. Sometimes I pretend time has stopped and I check to see how I feel at just this moment. I tell myself in just this moment I can be happy. Doom and despair may be 15 minutes away but in just this moment I can relax and be happy.

I have also found a number of sites like the Daily Challenge to be helpful because the focus is on doing something. Yesterday my challenge was to stretch to the sky three times. There is another one where I list what I accomplished that day in an email reminder. Some days I list just getting out of bed as an accomplishment. A third site I go to daily has me fight the bad guys of depression and inertia. I do daily quests. Even the smallest of actions can add up to feeling better about yourself.

At the end of the day, I do a daily review. What has been good about the day and what can be improved. When you do this enough you can start to see patterns. Maybe doing one activity triggers the self-loathing while another makes you smile. Start adding the ones that make you smile and reduce the ones that don't.

Today you reached out and said I am having trouble. That is very brave of you. In telling your story, you made me feel less alone in my struggles. I thank you for that.

I'm sure you have methods of finding satisfaction with your life when you are not in one of those periods of struggle. I would like to hear about them.

I don't know about anyone else, but for me it seems that it all just gets worse the older I get.
Perhaps because I have been suffering for so long.
I have just started seeing a therapist and Physiciatrist and taking meds for the past year now.
I don't know of anything else that would do me better.
i shoulda gotten help way long ago, if it mattered..
can't help myself or no one else.
Sorry i aint no help, but i am there the same as you.
Step in line.

wishing you a better day t-morrow, HappySomeday and everyone else...