[grey_aj]

This is starting to be a little too much crazy for me.

I'm an only child, and I feel like both of my parents are slowly going crazy. I don't know if it's my fault, or if it's their fault for not trusting me with being capable of doing anything on my own. Today my dad made a comment to me about how my mom probably had the mental ability to jump out of our apartment window, and it made me feel like it was my fault. My mom acts like taking care of me is really hard, even though I know I'm relatively easy compared to others.

I don't know if it's them or if it's me causing them to be like this. They've always been the most sensible people I've ever known.

- AJ

[Miswimmy1]

I'm sorry. I know it can be hard. Maybe you should be outright and talk to em about it? Maybe you could ask me what you could do to show that you are capable?

Hi aj - i think its important to talk to your parents about these feelings. If they know just how much you get upset by insensitive comments and over-protective behaviour they are more likely to review the current ground rules and allow you a little more freedom. I hope this situation improves for you.

[missbelle]

I was an only child ,and a lot falls on you when you are the only kid at home. I really disliked being an only child. I was very lonely, and made up a whole bunch of imaginary playmates so I would never be alone. I always felt if I had a sister or brother we would at least have each other, and not be so alone.
My suggestion would be to talk to a school counselor about your problems at home. That was a very weird thing for Dad to say about your mom. I know its tough to go to talk to someone, but sometimes it's the only answer. If there is not a counselor you trust, maybe a special teacher, or youth minister etc. Its important you share whats going on!!

Thinking of you;
Dee

[grey_aj]

Thanks guys.

Yeah, I hate being the only child. A lot of the times, people say they want to be only children because it's quieter and you get the attention. Well, unfortunately, it also means you get all the pressure.

I don't think I'll be able to go talk to someone. Sounds scary. And if I try to talk sense into them, I feel like it will backfire. They'll turn it around and try to make it see that it's me.

I'm playing by my own rules now. I'm not talking to my dad unless I absolutely have to.

- AJ

[jelly-bean]

Sweetie I'm sorry that you feel all this pressure. You should try to think of a way to talk to your parents about these troubling thoughts. I know you don't want to but if you won't talk to anyone else and you said you wouldn't then I don't see any other way. Otherwise you will continue to let it bother you until you are the one that needs help. Good Luck with this as I know it won't be easy.

[80vette]

It's not your fault.

[AngelWolf3]

I totally empathize with you. I too, am an only child, and have very overprotective parents. My dad has used the term "titanium umbilical cord" in reference to my mom...he has also said weird things like that about her, about locking herself in a closet and never coming out, etc.

Unfortunately I did not deal with that well at all, and I never said anything, and still haven't to this day. Definitely not suggesting that is or is not the correct route, but I can tell you my parents are well-schooled/sensible too so I can understand the confusion and the pressure.

I kinda ended up doing what you are. Playing by my rules and trying to avoid dad as much as I can unless I absolutely have to talk to him...yeah, still doing it at 31 and I don't even live with them anymore.

Just know that I am thinking of you, and I really hope it gets better, because I know it is hard, and totally stinks. (understatement, I am good at those)