[cactus lover]

My mum has been staying in my house for 4 months, she came feeling bad because she also has a depression, like me, and she had a fight with my brother about money. my brother, of course, got very angry and didn´t talk to my mother, so she came feeling very bad. It took for het some time to be on her feet again. Now she is going back to her house and I feel anxious that my brother and sister could hurt her again and she will get sick again. I realize now that I am writing that I can´t protect her from everything, I have to be rationale and objetive about this whole situation.
Thanks for being there.

[Leed]

It sounds like your mom is very very sensitive and fragile. Doesn't your brother know that? Why does he light into her like that? Doesn't he know that it makes her ILL when he does that?

Perhaps you could talk to him and ask him to be more careful and gentle with her. Being that harsh with her make her ill -- he ought to be able to see that, but I guess being a man, he doesn't pay much attention. Ask him to ease up on Mom and be more gentle. Maybe she won't have to keep coming to you .

Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[jelly-bean]

It takes a lot for a depressed person to take care of another depressed person, even if it is your Mom. Why is your mom's financial situation any business of your brothers? Does she live with him or is it the other way around? Either way, he should not be so angry with her. You and your mom need to have a talk with him about his attitude and it's affect on her. Maybe he doesn't know that she has depression and should be told. You might want to check out the relationships forum, Maybe someone there can advise you on how to bring this up to him without causing a big fight.

[Davisb]

Good thread...thanks for posting.

[JelcenT]

Breathe its gonna be okay