[I am Amelie]

I have a significant other, am living alone and going through a divorce. For me this combination is a lot. I am learning and developing. Some of it feels so good, some of it is accomplishments and frustrations and accomplishments, some of it is loneliness, guilt, hurt, and moving on.

[Junerain]

I, too, was so 'in my own world' in my twenties and did not truly grow up until my thirties....had to find a support group with others who had mental illness, others that understood me, true and good hearted friends This helped me grow, I did not receive unconditional love from my family, so it took friends to see and grow into who I am today, proud to say I am working with children, even with my mental illness, and am great at it! Society was so cruel to me when my mind was 'off' yet I have toned down my weirdness, as I had to, and society is not cruel to me anymore, which is an accomplishment, for me. I worked so hard to be where I am today, and I never take all this happiness and joy of life for granted. I would love to hear more of your story, too I am sure you have overcome a lot, too!!

[South68]

I am loving the title of this post. I am right there with you. I am divorcing again. I recently realized I have anxiety disorder and major codependency issues. My fear has held me back from having a fulfilling life, having me. I've been caught in this decision to move back to what is familiar and somewhat depressing to making a new life in a beautiful yet strange town where I know nobody.

I fell asleep last night deciding on moving back, driven by fear. I'd been reading about how I needed to confront the ghosts of my family and it scared me. I woke up and read a conversation I was having with a friend and realized I was selling myself short. I deserve this adventure. I can leave my baggage behind and start anew. I can grow up again. I am worthy of this. It doesn't have to be scary just cause its unknown. I can get to know it, little by little. To know myself. I can redefine myself. It seems so big right now but I can face it little by little. Small steps.

[AngelWolf3]

I am glad you posted this too. I feel the same way, I never have lived alone, having moved straight from my parents' house, to being married, then in with a room mate immediately after the divorce. Now that the room mate is leaving, I am very soon to be living alone after all of my life having someone there for me, and it is very scary. I feel like 30 is the new 20...

Welcome to PC, and I hope to learn more about you!