[katielovebugg]

I guess i should start off by saying i have a huge crush on a boy who is five years younger than me/ I am not sure how to deal with the fact that I might be falling for him. Also I just got a message from my good friend who I've been holding a torch for for the last four years asking to fool around... im not sure what I am supposed to do with emotions like this. usually i panic

[Leed]

First, I don't know how old you are, but I think you're a teenager. Do NOT "fool around" with ANYONE. Do you have any idea what can happen by fooling around? First, you can get a sexually transmitted disease. Secondly, you can get pregnant -- you're NOT ready to have a baby!!! It would NOT be fair to the baby, and you can't take care of it and go to school. And it's not fair to your parents to make THEM take care of it!!! Thirdly, you would ruin your reputation -- people would call you a skank, a 'dirty girl", a nasty girl. No one would want to hang around you except the other nasty girls that "give out." Do you want your reputation ruined?? A bad name never goes away. It stays with you all thru school.

And what are you doing having a crush on someone 5 years YOUNGER than you? Shame on you! That's just too much younger. You can't be very old yourself. Stay away from youngsters. You could get into trouble for that. No way!!! Stay way from him.

[turquoisesea]

it's normal to panic - sounds like you have a lot of mixed emotions right now. Leed is right in that fooling around can be dangerous - consider what YOU want out of all of this - and be careful that the friend is just not taking advantage of you. (they might know that you like them and just want to take advantage of that fact - they don't seem to seriously care about how you feel etc) From this specific post you don't seem super excited or anything about that/into the friend so it doesn't sound healthy to me.

as far as 5 years younger - I don't know how old you are and that does make a difference to me. Crushes happen - sometimes they're not always good to follow up on but there's no SHAME that you fall for someone. Emotions aren't always controlled. But you do have to be careful what you do with them - again, what's healthy for you and the other person? Just think about it, I think you'll find the answers if you be honest with yourself