[clouds_and_sun]

I can't handle being lonely, it is hurting me more than ever. I have agoraphobia and I am at home all day, I try to sleep the day away as it is too painful for me to be awake. See I just got out of a very abusive online relationship (I was with him for almost a year), I stayed with him cause I was afraid of this....loneliness. He dumped me for this girl that he loved for many years, I tried so hard to make things work out between him and I but it didn't. I feel that there is no hope for me with getting a guy, my will to live is so hard at this point. I am getting too old to have a family of my own, I just can't seem to cope with this. I am estranged from my own family. I am hurting so badly and I can't cope, I just can't!

[Thunder Bow]

Online is a poor way to have a relationship, it may seem safe but it is not. You took a risk with him. Now take the risk and get out more into the sun. Be your own self and take pride in that. Risk taking is adventure, take intellegent risks.

I out lived my family thus I too, have no family connections. Being "Estranged" can be a good thing! This can mean you are now free of family attachments that can hold you back and keep you from experiencing true freedom. Let go of any attachments and experience the freedom and joy that comes with that letting go.

Below, I pasted a link to a scene from the movie "Avatar" that I have a deep connection to. This scene can be interperted as letting go of attachments, going through the doors (bariers) and out into the sun of every day life and real freedom. Experiencing the pure Joy of doing that!

Take the situation you are in, and use it as an opportunity to take the risk, and experience the Joy and freedom of being free of attachments, and taking the risks to be free. You can do it!, and you are in a better position to do it than most people are to do it.

[arachnophobia.kid]

I'm so sorry to hear about your hard times.

I am going through some similar things, I am very lonely and often sleep my days away. What is helping me a lot is reaching out to people, old friends and new friends of all sorts of different ages and backgrounds. Just send an email to anyone, anyone at all really, tell them you're going through a hard time and ask if they'd be willing to go out for coffee. People are often more than willing to help each other out in hard times once you take the initiative and ask. All the best to you, I hope that things will get better as time passes.

- A

[Big Mama]

I spend alot of time alone. For the most part I like it that way. Some times though I need to connect with people or a person. I don't get out much and don't trust easily. I visit the chats here at PC. It seems pretty safe. Have you considered giving that a try. It seems to be really busy at night. A little less busy durring the day. It's a great way to talk and avoid the dangers we often fall into.

[Dreamy01]

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. I can relate. I live alone and have a physcial illness so I don't get out much. I'm not close to my family.

Here's some suggestions:

Online forums/chat
Internet dating (but be careful and try to get yourself in a better place first)
Penpal sites (writing and receiving letters can feel connecting)
Start a college course (distance learning)
Help others in same situation

It's not easy I know, just spent an evening crying in front of the TV and this is after six years alone, but things do get easier if you reach out to others. Being alone doesn't always mean lonely, I sort of like having my own space but it can also be tough.

Thinking of you.

Loneliness defines my life; it is the curse of Asperger's Syndrome. People here on PC and elsewhere attempt to comfort me with false and cliché phrases like, "There's someone for everyone," or that I will somehow find someone that can like me, but they don't seem to understand my daily battle with loneliness and believing that I will forever be alone. All of this weekend, for example, I have been crying in front of the television, computer, or in books and struggling with suicidal ideation. The hopelessness, loneliness, and frustration can make it seem like it'd be better if I ended it now, because I can't deal with this indefinitely.

I have no family, no friends, and no relationship, all I have are anonymous chats on the Internet, like PC, Tumblr, and MSN. Haven't had a hug or experienced any closeness to anyone in years.

Can't say I have much advice but that I do relate to a feeling of endless, unbearable loneliness

I'm so sorry...
It may not be much, but I hope all of you who are suffering can find some relief here, be it a small olive branch of friendship or a kind word.
I also suffer from lonliness being a sufferer of BPD...the disorder not only centers around my need for human connection but likewise pushes people away and alienates me (due to stigma mainly). I understand...it may not be much, but I understand.

I have always felt a large empty space in myself that no person, no thing or even myself can fill. I've experienced people close to me, lovers, friends, relationships ,family...nothing fills the lonliness because it is a part of me. I find no relief in the statements of encouragement and consolation that Mr. V is talking about, yet dole them out hoping they will help others...

At least, I find relief in knowing I'm not alone in my feeling...and you're not, I feel this way quite often, more often than I wish I did...That's all I can offer, is my understanding and my empathy...I get it. I live it.

[LadyShadow]

I am sorry you are hurting. It is an unbearable pain I know. I suffer with it from time to time myself, but I always manage to pull through, I don't know how. All I can do is offer my hugs and support and hope you feel better soon.