[riman716]

Btw, before I even start this, I don't even know what section to add this into. I just need some help..

Hi, I'm Riley. I'm 15. I'm bisexual. My entire life I've dealt with bullying, but now, being in 10th grade I've had NO problems. I just have a few questions...So, I have a psychatrist and I am NOT satisfied because she never ASKS me things. I'm literally trapped in my own mind. If someone is reading this, please give me options of what could be wrong with me. I think it could be obssession. So lately, I don't know what "group" I want to fit in to. I know, it sounds crazy but it's been going on for years now. When I buy clothes, I either go the preppy look or the hipster look. I can't choose which one I want to be. The fact that I seriously worry about it is what drives me crazy. I think it's obsession because, like when I want to be a hipster for a day, I do research. It sounds crazy right? Like it's crazy enough to like RESEARCH what kind of phones they have, the cigarettes they smoke, music they listen to ect. I can't really tell anyone about it, because I come off sounding crazy. On other days, I want to be a prep. I plan on what car, I'm going to have, plan on the music I'm going to listen to, I quit smoking on those days. I also want to act straight on the days where I want to be a prep. It sounds crazy, and I KNOW I sound crazy saying this. But this is my last resort. What is wrong with me? I do a total change up of my personality on some days and I can't determine what group I want to be in. I sit and think about it all the time. Like, it got to the point where I was planning to be a hipster this summer. I was going to totally change up my look, and then the days where I hang out with my preppy friends, I would change my clothing and attitude and such. Can someone help me? I'm lost in my own mind on who I want to be. Here's an example of what goes through my mind. I was looking at what car I want for my 6th birthday. I wanted the Nissan Altima...in the back of my head, I was like, what about those days I wanted to be a hipster, hipsters don't drive nissan altimas. Another example, (btw, don't judge because I don't smoke pot to be cool, I don't do it in public, and I'm responsible with it, trust me) I think about smoking pot when I'm in my prep stage, but no preps that I know do it.Another example. I wanted a regular case for my iphone, then in the back of my head, I was like, those days where I want to be a hipster, I want this case. I'm also worried about how people will think of me. Like I don't fit into a group. I'm scared they will be like, he can't make up his mind on what he wants to be. If you read this, I appreciate it. Because no one else gets it. Please write back. Btw, for further information. I'm not suicidal in any way shape or form and I'm currently on Prozac.

[Raindropvampire]

I don't really have advice but I do have a question: Why do you have to choose? Obviously you like both lifestyles so can you combine them into one that fits you? Will your friends accept you for that? I'm sorry I couldn't be of any real help but maybe those questions could give you something to talk over with your psychiatrist. Also if she doesn't challenge you and ask questions then switch to someone who does if at all possible.

Hi Riley,
Nothing is wrong with you. Please remember that. Not a thing is wrong with you. You are NORMAL for a 15 year old. I'm only 15 years older than you, and I can vividly remember that age. It is tough. I can imagine it is even tougher in this current society where everything is about IMAGE. Seriously, it's not that important. The celebs and media just want us to think it is, but it is NOT. That said, I can understand how much you would want to fit in with a group. This is a very natural instinct for humans, so get it out of your head that something is wrong with you. Reading your post, I think that you're the type of person who pays a lot of attention to detail. Are you artistic? Don't try to fit into a mould of what you think you should be. Create your own look. Mix the 2 if you like those styles. Then, you will be unique. I would say shift your focus onto doing something productive and creative. If I had to guess your personality based on this post, and recommend an activity for you, it would be theater. You may find a lot of enjoyment in that. You get to dress in costume, and experience different characters just for the fun of it.

[Stranger516]

Being labeled as a "hippster" or "a prep" does not define who you are. The clothes on your back and the shoes on your feet do NOT define you as a person. You are only 15 years old, and I can see how you do not understand this concept right now. With time I think you grow to learn to realize that you do not need to belong to a specific group. Sure it may be a bit obsessive what you are currently doing in order to change your everyday style, but when you truly come to realize who you are, you will not need "style" to define yourself.

[Bipolar mom]

I was a lot like you when I was 15. Back then I had no idea who I was or who I wanted to be. Still don't.

There's thing wrong with you, though I know kids can be judgmental. I gt called a "poser" alot because one day I would dress punk, another day I'd be emo, another day I'd be decked out in holister. You can be whoever you want to be and dress however you want without having to label yourself. Just do what makes you happy and try not to stress about the little details