[happyhappymonster]

This is a very serious question have and would like to know if there are many other people that have a similar relationship with their emotions as I do.

I have an unusual reaction to loss and death. I do not feel upset, bad, grief or any lasting emotion when people die. Last year, a few very, very close family members of mine died. Some suddenly and one of cancer, so we knew that had been coming for a while. My girlfriend was thrown and worried because I showed 0 emotion in regards to the situation. In my head they were there yesterday, today they're not, done, move on. I have always been like this for as long as I can remember.

I feel empathy, sorrow and everything else just when it comes to loss via death I am cold and feel very little. It scared my girlfriend and I have noticed on two occasions where people have been thrown by the way I speak about someone dying of the potential of them dying.

TBH this doesn't bother me too much, but I am aware it bothers other people.

Any help, suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

[LilMercy]

Everyone relates and deals with death different, there is nothing wrong with how you cope and deal with it.

I myself have dealt with sudden deaths in the last 2 years....it took me 6 months to cry over one and the other I still havent cried or anything over...I find I tell myself alot they are just on vacation and not coming home.

If it doesnt bother you and you knwo your coping with it in your own way. I wouldnt worry

Originally Posted by LilMercy

Everyone relates and deals with death different, there is nothing wrong with how you cope and deal with it.

I myself have dealt with sudden deaths in the last 2 years....it took me 6 months to cry over one and the other I still havent cried or anything over...I find I tell myself alot they are just on vacation and not coming home.

If it doesnt bother you and you knwo your coping with it in your own way. I wouldnt worry

i really like the vacation analigy.. and i'll tell you why

1 of my friends who died a couple of years ago... his last words on his death bed were, welcome to my long vacation... and since then, i've always pictured our love ones are just on vacation, listening to us, looking at us, and enjoying themselves at a 5 star resort... no pain, no suffering, nothing.

does that sound bad?

as for how i cope with death, i find myself greeving more for celebrity deaths, then i do deaths of people close to me.

grandad.... bethany.... my grandma, etc, yes, it was sad- maybe i was upset for a while- but it didon't last long.

as someone said it's like okay they are gone, their not coming back, move on

but when it comes to amy winehouse, michael jackson, witney heuston, it's a totally diffrent story.... totally

i rmember when michael jackson died, i took all my posters down (my posters wern't michael related) but took them down anyway, stopped listening to his music fir a whole year, and cry over him for hours and hours at a time

people used to say to me... why are you crying so bad over michael jackson?

and i couldn't tell them... i didon't know

witney heuston as well... i wasn't at all a fan of her music, but her death hit me so hard

what's up with that?

it's like close family and celebrities switched places....?

[Leed]

It's weird -- the older I get, the more I'm becoming like that. I guess I'm getting to the point where I'm realizing that death is a fact of life.

My best friend died recently. I met her when I was 4 yrs old, and I'll be 64 soon, so we'd been together for almost 60 years!! She and I had been inseparable, and talked constantly. While it totally upset me, I didn't fall apart like I thought I would. I think that I realized that I'll probably be joining her in a few years along with joining my husband, parents, sister, etc.

In my younger years, death scared the daylights out of me, but today -- no. I've gained faith and believe that there IS life after death, so I'm not afraid anymore. So I just don't get emotional anymore at deaths of loved ones.

I guess it comes with age. But maybe that's just me. Hugs, Lee

[Thunder Bow]

You are Emotionaly Matture. Down deeper you may have feelings, depending on your connections you shared with the deceased while he/she was alive. A scene in a movie may casue those feelings to emerge for you. Or some other reminder out there.