[ACC_gal]

This is one I need work on... See the thing is I have a hard time reading people's emotions and facial expressions. Including what triggers someone. So I sometimes NEED to be told what is and what IS NOT acceptable to someone.. I have ACC ( agenesis of corpus callosum) and it may make it seem like I am apathetic but this is far from it. I just can;t read people as say.. someone who does NOT have ACC.. a rare brain birth defect. think of ACC like autism or aspergers. if someone tells me what I can expect or what they don't like.. including triggers.. then I am good with that and respect them awhole lot more then if they back stab me.

[shezbut]

ACC_gal,

It sounds, to me, as though you need to accept the fact that you aren't real good at picking up on other people's emotions. That's a tough "pill" to swallow, but, you can't change that aspect of your world.

Everyone who knows you knows that you have ACC. You can try to be sure to share that you have a tough time reading other people's faces, tones of speech, etc. which sometimes results in hurt feelings. By being upfront about this tendency, people ought to become a lot more upfront with how they are feeling ~ rather than relying upon non-verbal clues to tell you how they feel. I think the brain injury workshop said that 60% of communication is done non-verbally!

If you're hoping to apply tips towards online friends, than I'd recommend adding this disclaimer to your signature. For instance, in the Neuro Talk site, many of the TBI survivors have a brief history of their experience and current troubles written (in smaller letters) below their name on each & every post. That really helps the reader know exactly where they're coming from intellectually and psychologically! That's what I'd advise you to do. I hope this helps you!

Very best wishes and gentle hugs to you....

[sandworm]

I have some tips ACC-gal. given i struggle with people reading too, some things I do help with the struggle