[maggy.ng]

How do you feel/think when you hang out with your boyfrien/girlfriend at the places, which belong to your exes (these places you got memories, feelings, thoughts, etc with them)?

Did you ever experience that feeling?

[maggy.ng]

Today we had a plan to hang out and window shopping. I told him "Today is yours, I'll follow you". He took me to the places he were with his ex (right now his best buddy) and at the lunch time, he hold my hand and asked me we should find our places. I've been feeling sad, it's hard to describe my feelings right now.

When I ask him about her, he ignores and always affirms "she's leaving. she won't come back here (my hometown where we decided to live together), so she was my priority". I don't know if she came back to visit or something else, would he go for her and say "cause she's here for a while, and I can not ignore her"?

That's my hometown, i don't know why i don't wanna take my steps to places they were together though i know, to him, she's just friend.

[LovelaceF]

Hi maggy.ng

To me, it sounds like you have a sense that your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex. I can understand why you would feel sad. It must be hard to be with someone who still loves someone else, as if you are second place.

How long ago did they break up? It sounds like it is still fresh.

[maggy.ng]

Hi lovelaceF,
You're right, I still think he set a special place for her, she's his priority, though I know it's not kinda feelings of love between bf - gf.
They broke up over 10 years ago. He affirms that she's his best buddy, and to her, nominally it is, but she does want him to come back with her.

[LovelaceF]

So what has kept him from going back to her? Is it that they're not compatible in a romantic relationship, or is it because he's with you, or something else?

[hamster-bamster]

I wanted the guy whom I am currently seeing to take me to the German restaurant that was the place of my first date with my second ex H, in 1997. My request was in pursuit of therapeutic goals.

The guy agreed.

We went to the restaurant and it was not there anymore. It must have gone out of business.

The guy said: "Well, this is even more therapeutic - the place ceased to exist."

I agreed with that interpretation.

[maggy.ng]

Hi lovelaceF,
She's older than him 13 years old, has 3 children. To him, she's simply best buddy.