[Jellyfish55]

Hello! So or a while I've been having some trouble keeping myself calm after minor events. I tend to take little things and blow them out of proportions. For example, today in gym (oh btw I'm in high school which will probably promo everyone go answers this to say "it's your hormones blah blah blah", but to get back on track today in gym today, I was sitting with a few friends and I got up to go pee and when I came back they weren't where we were sitting anymore. I tried to sit and wait but I started to get embarassed that no one else was sitting with me and I felt all alone and I didn't want people looking at me and stuff so I went and hid in the locker room, in the farthest back shower, because there's a spot there where no one can see you if you stay low enough. I sat there for 10 minutes and suddenly heard my friends come into the locker room. I thought they might have been looking for me. They were not looking for me. They came back to get some of there stuff. I went up to them, real pissed off and was like "where have you guys been??" And they talked about how when I went off to the bathroom, they didnt know where I had went so they walked around. They also said they figured they'd run into me but I took that for an excuse. So hen they weren't looking I went back and hid in the shower. At the end of class I headed back out to where we were sitting and my friend was like "what's your problem by are you mad at us we didn't do anything" do I said I was having a bad day and next thing I knew I was crying and wiping my eyes and looking away but no one was paying attention to me anyway, and then I left promptly when the bell rang. Whoah, that was long. Sorry. I felt kinda embarassed about the way I handled this afterward so I was wondering if you would consider this a healthy emotional response. Thanks for listening

[Thunder Bow]

I remember when I was in the Air Force. While I was at a movie, the whole dorm moved into another one. When I came back the whole place was empty. I had to find out where everyone has gone. The incident did not bother me much!

[Perna]

Hiding when you want to be with others is not a particularly useful response? They didn't know where you were so started walking around; for all they knew you'd gone off to do something on your own. Next time "save" your place, tell someone where you're going or say something like, "I'll be right back". If you had started walking around when you came back and found them gone, you probably would have bumped into them sooner and would have had a mission instead of just worrying about if anyone was staring at you or noticing you alone; you would not have been as vulnerable to your anxieties because you would have been a moving target It was only accidentally that they ran into you, next time make it more likely to meet up with them by working to run into them.

It sounds like you were creating a scenario by the things you said to yourself in order to bring about feelings that I suspect are very familiar to you: feeling abandoned, betrayed or whatever your exact feelings were. These kind of self-created situations tend to come from childhood experiences.

I don't see where your friends did anything out of line. More to the point, I think it is very important for you to develop awareness around reacting based solely on the stories you decide to tell yourself.

Your resultant reaction will tend to push friends away and then you will feel even more abandoned or unimportant, etc. Next time you can choose to ask your friends where they went before accusing them of any wrong doing. Also, realize that your choice to hide was not based on reality and you might ask yourself on a deep level why you did this so that you can begin to heal the underlying cause.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Jellyfish55

Hello! So or a while I've been having some trouble keeping myself calm after minor events. I tend to take little things and blow them out of proportions. For example, today in gym (oh btw I'm in high school which will probably promo everyone go answers this to say "it's your hormones blah blah blah", but to get back on track today in gym today, I was sitting with a few friends and I got up to go pee and when I came back they weren't where we were sitting anymore. I tried to sit and wait but I started to get embarassed that no one else was sitting with me and I felt all alone and I didn't want people looking at me and stuff so I went and hid in the locker room, in the farthest back shower, because there's a spot there where no one can see you if you stay low enough. I sat there for 10 minutes and suddenly heard my friends come into the locker room. I thought they might have been looking for me. They were not looking for me. They came back to get some of there stuff. I went up to them, real pissed off and was like "where have you guys been??" And they talked about how when I went off to the bathroom, they didnt know where I had went so they walked around. They also said they figured they'd run into me but I took that for an excuse. So hen they weren't looking I went back and hid in the shower. At the end of class I headed back out to where we were sitting and my friend was like "what's your problem by are you mad at us we didn't do anything" do I said I was having a bad day and next thing I knew I was crying and wiping my eyes and looking away but no one was paying attention to me anyway, and then I left promptly when the bell rang. Whoah, that was long. Sorry. I felt kinda embarassed about the way I handled this afterward so I was wondering if you would consider this a healthy emotional response. Thanks for listening

for some people it is normal
for some people it isnt normal
for some people its part of their mental disorder
for others its part of their medical issues
for some its the type of medications they are on
and for others its part of what stage/age they are..

to find out if this is normal for you my suggestion is contact your treatment providers. they will be able to tell you whether this is normal for you or not.

[Sistah]

Depends on what you mean by normal. Normal for a high school girl. Normal for someone who thinks she should have acted differently? Normal for someone who feels that she should have been more mature? What's "normal" for you? Maybe it's not the way I would have reacted but I'm not you. Did you learn from the situation? That would be normal.