[attached123]

Ex and I broke up 1 month ago. Feels like 2 weeks. He was diagnosed bipolar ın the last month and now has a new girlfriend and engaged. I hate them both right now. But I can,t let lt go. I look at her stuff. I look at his stuff. I wrote him emails that ı thought would go unread but then he read them. he engaged ın conversatıon today and says he ıs tryıng to understand me. I am so angry that he replaced me so fast. I cant seem to let ıt go though. I got really sıck wıth the flu and realızed the anger of all the ups and downs and confusıon (hım beıng bıpolar and actıng accordıngly) sent me over the edge. Tellıng me he had no woman to actually havıng one. I should just walk away but I have ıssues wıth beıng seen. I almost let ıt go whıle I was sıck but now that ı am better ı fınd myslef wantıng to fıght the fıght agaın. What the hell ıs wrong wıth me????

[tinyrabbit]

One month isn't a long time! I think you need to sit with your feelings for a while and feel them before you move on.

[Leed]

There's nothing the matter with you. It's normal to be upset that he replaced you so soon after breaking up with you! It makes you feel like you were nothing to him! I don't blame you.

BUT -- there are other ways to deal with your anger besides writing both of them. Don't do that. Instead, write in a journal about your feelings, or write poems. But don't contact either one of them. All that does is stir up trouble, and perhaps get YOU in trouble for harassment!

Chances are his "new love" won't last long anyway. But I would NOT take him back, because he's just NOT STABLE. Since he's recently been diagnosed with BiPolar disorder, he's already had 2 girlfriends -- you and this other chick. Does that sound stable? NO. So until he gets both feet on the ground, stay away from him.

God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[hamster-bamster]

There is nothing wrong with you. That you seemed to let it go was simply an artifact of the flu, when your body was depleted of energy and focused on fighting the virus, and thus it temporarily shut down the emotions evoked by the breakup, and then you recovered both physical health and the emotions.

It would have been unnatural to let go of it so fast.

[avlady]

You do need more time to get over someone, and if your talking to him that could just make it worse, so i say don't answer his calls, and you too don't get in touch with him, you're only hurting yourself more.

[Gloom]

Nothing's wrong with you. If being diagnosed Bipolar wasn't enough, one month after breaking up with you he doesn't only have a new girlfriend, he's already engaged to her. So yes, your pain is natural and justified. The anger too.

I know it's hard, but you need to stop looking at their stuff. It's not healthy and will only harm and hurt you more, and while he's "trying" to understand you (as if his actions were very normal) he's also minding his own business with this new woman.
Like Leed said, I don't believe this new romance will last long either. He's Bipolar, and even if he wasn't, the fact that this new woman is engaged to him after only one month is also a red flag.

Take care of yourself now, take this chance to be selfish and mind only your business. Do what you need. It will be the hardest thing you'll ever have to do, and it will take time, but you need to let this one go. It will hurt like hell, but you need to go through this so you can come out even stronger.

[bare_all]

I agree with everyone who has answered so far, it is still way too early and it will be even harder because you are still having contact with him...

Although it is not easy, you need to find a way to accept that it is over. I suggest using techniques in which you can calm your mind, stop ruminating about him, and reconnect with yourself. I use mindfulness meditation but any meditation or yoga should help.

It will help you gain some perspective on the situation too...