[Hapalee]

Three days ago I discovered that my ex-husband has introduced my children to the illegitimate child that he fathered with one of his mistresses during our long marriage. I am having an emotionally difficult time digesting this news. Strangely, I found this information out when I logged onto Facebook and saw copious amounts of pictures plastered all over my 18-20 year old kids' walls with him and them in group with their father, in these "family style" impromptu portraits, along with numerous people hitting the "Like" button. I am astounded. Actually I was almost wondering if I should post this on the Depression forum, as I now feel like I am going to cross over into deep depression mode.
Their behavior seems inappropriate, almost abusive towards me and my feelings. How can they not perceive of the fact that I would not see this, and be hurt by the content? Am I expecting too much from people? I am curious.

[Travelinglady]

Hi! I can understand how you would be upset about this situation, since the existence of this child is evidence of your husband's cheating. However, I suspect your children are not thinking about how you would feel. Perhaps they are excited at having a half-brother--a person who is kin to them--and they are enjoying getting to know him.

It would have been nice had your husband told you about this child and what he was planning to do. But he doesn't sound like the most sensitive guy in the world, given that he was psychologically abusive to you before.

I know it's hard, but maybe you can avoid looking at these pictures. Your children are adults now, and they are able to make their own decisions about who to spend time with. Let's hope their half-brother is a decent guy. I know this comment will likely give you little consolation, but I have to say I think it's good that your husband just hasn't abandoned his other child, like many men in his situation might have done.