I can't seem to understand why people don't like me. i don't get why all my life i've had to deal with this. when i think something's funny people don't find it funny at all. instead they get all serious about it and when others do it in a playful way, everyone else laughs. this one librarian told me that my voice carries when i talk to her from afar and that i should be speaking to her upfront. I asked another librarian if my voice was like that and he was like no. It was all due to her comment that I began questioning myself. I volunteer there and at times people can be total jerks..
I don't undrstand why some people's presences make me uncomfortable. i feel like my presence does not seem to be very welcoming to others so they're like dude what are you doing here?
Ever since freshman year started I have been told what are you doing here in our in-group or should I call it a clique? they excluded me and were mad because i was there. wow, cannot believe it.
I tend to judge a person by their looks because i feel like the ones who have been mean to me have a certain look so i avoid those people altogether and never get to know who they are.
i wanted the people who had harmed me or laughed at my expense to vanish from my sight, to be made miserable, and i've always gotten mad when they're doing better than I am. One time I was told that I was a mistake and another time i was told that who would want to marry you? I wanted to tell teh guy that who would want to marry a guy who doesn't want to have kids? I hope your wife is barren for the rest of her life. As for the person who said I was a mistake, I hope that his future generations will not have the best of luck.
when i see how others who have been mistreating me, successful, i can't help but be envious of them.
when i laugh nobody laughs with me even when it's purely innocent.

[yellowfrog268]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

I can't seem to understand why people don't like me. i don't get why all my life i've had to deal with this. when i think something's funny people don't find it funny at all. instead they get all serious about it and when others do it in a playful way, everyone else laughs. this one librarian told me that my voice carries when i talk to her from afar and that i should be speaking to her upfront. I asked another librarian if my voice was like that and he was like no. It was all due to her comment that I began questioning myself. I volunteer there and at times people can be total jerks..
I don't undrstand why some people's presences make me uncomfortable. i feel like my presence does not seem to be very welcoming to others so they're like dude what are you doing here?
Ever since freshman year started I have been told what are you doing here in our in-group or should I call it a clique? they excluded me and were mad because i was there. wow, cannot believe it.
I tend to judge a person by their looks because i feel like the ones who have been mean to me have a certain look so i avoid those people altogether and never get to know who they are.
i wanted the people who had harmed me or laughed at my expense to vanish from my sight, to be made miserable, and i've always gotten mad when they're doing better than I am. One time I was told that I was a mistake and another time i was told that who would want to marry you? I wanted to tell teh guy that who would want to marry a guy who doesn't want to have kids? I hope your wife is barren for the rest of her life. As for the person who said I was a mistake, I hope that his future generations will not have the best of luck.
when i see how others who have been mistreating me, successful, i can't help but be envious of them.
when i laugh nobody laughs with me even when it's purely innocent.

Of course you don't have to answer this but what (if anything) is your diagnosis?

[albrecht86]

I used to be very socially awkward and full of self-doubt like you when I was younger, but have since made a big flip and even been called the "social butterfly" so here's a few hopefully helpful things from my experience:
* The most important: some people will not like you - and that is normal. It just means you have a personality
* Conversely, some people will like you for the reasons others dislike you. My friend is notoriously too quiet and talks under her breath, making her hard to hear; I wish her voice "would carry" like yours more simetimes!
* Over time you will find people who like you for who you are, and those who don't like you for who you are. The former are friends, the latter are... not friend. but not enemies either.
* If you can accept this, it will make you confident in yourself.

That being said, it's not an excuse to be mean or ill-mannered and sometimes feedback from others is legitimate. But it sounds like you way, way overestimate that. Accept yourself and the people your personality attracts first - if you like them as well, things are going right!

Originally Posted by yellowfrog268

Of course you don't have to answer this but what (if anything) is your diagnosis?

I have seen a therapist before in the past but they did not tell me anything.

The school psychologist won't be back until this school year.

Originally Posted by yellowfrog268

Of course you don't have to answer this but what (if anything) is your diagnosis?

If you could take a guess at what I have, what do you suppose it could be?