[talula25]

so it was my nephews 1st birthday today (Thursday) I missed his party because I had work. I've just been on facebook to a message saying 'well Harley had a nice time' this was from my mum. I mean wtf is that supposed to mean? is she trying to make me feel guilty for not going because I had no way of going I had work 1130am until 630pm and my nephews party was at 12pm. I've only been at my job for 4 weeks and it would of been rude to even ask for the day off, I told my sister last week I wouldn't be able to attend so why the message from my mum. I knew he had a good day I saw for myself so whats her problem. is It because I didn't constantly message to ask about the day if that's the case come on ive got my own life and I cant be bothered with all the stress family bring. now my emotions are all over the place, feeling anxious, stressed, guilty, upset, angry and annoyed

[shaggydoo]

Yes I agree I think your mum took a passive-aggressive stab at you to promote guilt in your life for not being at the party. Sounds like you wish your mom would respect you and your life and just share about the party rather than throw a guilt trip your way for not going? I am sorry that you mom did this to you. I must ask, does this happen often? Have you confronted her in the past about this behavior? Have you told her how her behavior makes you feel? If you have tried to resolve this, why do you still give her freedom to control your life and promote those negative feelings? I come from a very manipulative family myself and know of the trials this causes.