[LostMom3]

I haven't posted in several months. Since I haven't posted I have gotten married. When we argue I get angry and he wants to talk, my solution is to walk away. He doesn't let me. we tend to get physical and I flip and I attack him. This is not me normaly. I don't understand it and I don't like this side of me at all. I have had to see him with a black eye and it bothered me so bad. Yes, he has smacked me, but I have done the worst damage. How do I stop?:

[Perna]

Neither of you should be laying hands on the other in anger. I don't know what you mean by he doesn't let you walk away; I would explain to him you need and would like the time to cool down so you can discuss whatever calmly. If he grabs you or gets physical, that's not acceptable.

[LostMom3]

He locks the bedroom door so on one can enter and when I try to pass, he grabs. I was in an abusive relationship before. So when he grabs me I get scared. I know why I attack. It is just the stopping I have the problem with.

[Freewilled]

I'm sorry grabbing you is physical abuse. It's restraint and its on the "abuse lists" you can find online....it sounds really difficult what you are going through. Are you in therapy?