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#1
Oct 02, 2013, 04:29 AM
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I'm probably not the first person to express this wish. I just wish that love was more of an "action" word. I wish more people understand what love means? And not simply in a theoretical sense. When someone says that they love me, I don't expect them to walk out of my life without a word, when I've spent hours talking to them, listening to them....helping them.... I don't expect a relative who should have provided a safe shelter for his girl to say "we love you, at Christmas" ....
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Oct 02, 2013, 08:18 AM
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I agree. Saying I love you to someone does tend to be a throw away line these days. People think they can say that and everything is great, but you're right you need to do things to actually express this love. Like sticking around and supporting us when we need it, helping us out in bad times. Hell, just a call every now and then for a chat. Some people just don't get this. And I'm sorry that you have had to experience this first hand.
 
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Oct 02, 2013, 08:20 AM
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Sadly 'love' is rarely unconditional though I understand what you mean. I've found it helps to accept that most things are finite and as such I try to cherish them in the moment that they are there/offered, but not hold ill will or bad thoughts when they dissipate or things go sour. I don't know if that helps, but there are often those around us who come and go, but help and love is often there... it just changes hands.
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Oct 02, 2013, 08:21 AM
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Quote:
 ((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))
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Oct 02, 2013, 08:22 AM
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Totally, Fuzzybear. The word "love" as in a feeling, as in "I love you" means little to me. I have never liked to say it. If anything, it has a negative connotation as I've seen so many people say it and act like total poopheads. I remember having to read the Catholic Bible as a kid - and in there love is an ACT, not a feeling. I am an atheist, but I still think that was a good concept. "Don't say you love me. Show me." Talk is cheap.
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Oct 02, 2013, 09:55 AM
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I've had many people come into my life and use the "love" word. Sometimes they stay and sometimes they go. When they go, we have to go through the grief process, just as if they died. It hurts. It leaves you empty and unlovable, however, that is not true, it just wasn't meant to be. I'm sorry you have been hurt. We just have to get up and go at life again.
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Oct 02, 2013, 10:27 AM
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I believe in love, it gets us through some hard times, I also believe people that are men and woman of their words must show the actions that go with it, Actions speak louder than words i believe.
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Oct 02, 2013, 12:11 PM
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I'm sorry for your pain fuzzybear, I agree with you 100% and I wish for the same. Love is hard, even if you do understand that it means sacrifice and care giving, we still fail to love others all the time. It is so unfortunate that we can't always be loving in that way.
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Oct 03, 2013, 09:56 AM
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a poem of mine.....
What is Love..... That it feels soooo GOOD! What is Love..... That it hurts so BAD! What is love..... That it can give you hopes, dreams, and asperations.... What is Love..... That it can take those same hopes, dreams, and asperations and throw them off a cliff to shatter below on the rocks of despair! What is Love..... That it can promise so much, but deliver so little. What is Love..... That it can bring a strong man to his knees. What is Love..... That you can know it but never feel it. What is Love..... That you can feel it but not know it. What is love that can drive the whole world out of existance for but a single moment. The answer you seek lies in the forever unknown, because I cannot answer the simple question: What is Love? stranger '08
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