[Fleury29]

Just curious, but I've noticed, all my life pretty much, is I'll agree with anything anyone says, even if they make me contradict myself, or say yes if they ask me to do something, even if I don't have to, and don't want to, and I sometimes get in trouble for it, any clues as to why I always say yes to things? Is this something from autism or something else?

[almakic88]

I do this too. I think it's actually because I'm so adaptable and can easily see and understand different people's viewpoints, life philosophies etc., and I'm also very curious and open-minded so I find it easy to agree with others. Sometimes I feel bad about this quality, because we live in a culture where you are expected to be really "individualistic" and "super-opinionated and 100% original" about everything, but I've always found it so much easier to find the ways in which I'm similar to people, and people to me, than to construct this illusion of my supposed "difference" (which I personally believe is illusory anyway). For that reason cultures like Japan which emphasize group harmony have always been more appealing to me.

Don't feel bad about this quality, as it just makes you open-minded and adaptable. These are strengths, as life requires a lot of adaptability and openness to change! <3

Keep being your lovely self!

~Alma

[PeachCream22]

I totally get you. I don't think it's got anything to do with autism at all (does autism even include helping other people? I think it's coming off as being cold and anti-social because autistic people just are not good at social communication) It's because you don't want to hurt other people's feelings. Right now, if it's to the extent of even getting yourself into trouble, I think you need to set some time aside for yourself and try to be assertive. Set boundaries and if the people don't understand that, you're better off without them in your life. You've got a life too!

[Thunder Bow]

Most fear disapproval by others and fear rejection, to the point of tripping one self up, lose by giving away one self. That is a bad thing to do, and not woth the kind of acceptance you would get.

[BLUEDOVE]

I did this for many years,and rationalised that I was
not like THEM so I will not stoop to their level.
A load of bull I'm afraid. It was a 'nice' way to cop
out and not stand UP for myself !
Quote I have stuck
up on my kitchen wall: "You get the behavior from
people that you are willing to put up with without
protest, YOUR SILENCE IS CONSENT!!!"
Please acquire some books on assertiveness,and
self-esteem,you are worth more than you know.
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE

[Soundoff]

I use to do that a lot! I could never say no and even now I hate refusing people but I know that if I don't, people are more likely to push me around. I learned my "say yes" behavior from my mom. She's really sweet and willing to help anyone and everyone even when she's crushed under a rock. I kind of learn to be more assertive through her mistakes and because when I went to low-minority schools I had to adapt the mentality that I'm "unique". Pretty much faked it till I made it and I miraculously gain confidence, well a little bit.