[almakic88]

I've spoken about this a few times in my threads. I'm 25 and still live at home with my folks. Sometimes I get so angry about this that I feel like I'm in despair.

Is anyone else going through this? I am an adult, I feel like an adult, I know that I should be on my own now. All of my friends seem to be in a similar situation too. I've spoken to some people about it; my former therapist said I have an assertiveness-issue and I let my folks push me around. I guess it's true sometimes, but that's only because you can never win with my folks and sometimes I am sick of fighting for my rights and fighting over every single thing. I let them win battles but I am trying to win the war, so to speak.

Sometimes I experience this almost wild despair because I feel like I'm not in control of my own life, like I can't live my life the way I want to. *rebel yell*

It's unusual to me too how some people are like "so move out! just do it already! do it tomorrow!" as if money is not an issue at all. I can't move out without money. I'm in grad school right now...Probably won't have a legit job for another couple of years at least.

If anyone has any thoughts or words of encouragement...I am all ears.

~Alma

that would be me, well... kind of

i still live at home with my parents (who do a really ****** job of understanding my mental health), but i also know that because of how i can be, i can't really live alone- and need the support of my brother (who is like the only person who tries to understand)

so i apreciate why i'm still here- even though i may not be the best pleased about it

[sweetmadness]

Hey there, I'm 24 almost 25. I was living alone in a studio apartment but I just moved back home with my parents. Honestly, it would be fine if my mom wasn't so unwell. The stress is putting a lot of pressure on all of us. But my mom can be really sweet sometimes and brings me coffee or bought new sheets for my bed. She has delusions so it's hard to live with her. I think we both have bipolar disorder but hers is worse because she never got treatment, which is to me proof that I made the right decision to stick with my medication and therapy.

Living at home can't be that bad. A ton of people your age live at home because of the economy and financial reasons. It saves money until you can get on your feet again. And while parents can be annoying sometimes, you have to realize in most cases they want what's best for you and have your best interests at heart.

Try to take care and not feel bad over this. Some people wanted me to up and move with them to NYC, but I'm not financially prepared. While new experiences are worth having, I can't just up and leave my home with no safety net or people there. I mean I have bipolar/schizoaffective, so it's hard enough just finding a job here. More jobs in the city, that's the only plus side of moving out.

[Jishkah]

A bit, yeah. I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself to become independent, to live on my own, to get a full-time job, to finish college, to be independent, stable, secure... it's something that I've been thinking about for a long time, something that has been eating away at my mind for the better part of a few years. I don't know why, but I want to live on my own. Well, not completely on my own - I'd love to live with someone else, a friend, perhaps - but... yeah.

I'm only 20, though, so it may take a few more years. My folks are saying that I probably won't move out until I'm 27 or 28, but I really don't like the idea of that...

"Living at home can't be that bad. A ton of people your age live at home because of the economy and financial reasons. It saves money until you can get on your feet again. And while parents can be annoying sometimes, you have to realize in most cases they want what's best for you and have your best interests at heart."

then, you have not met my parents. seriously.. if i posted all they've put me through over the years, i may as well start my own version of psychcentral- just with my posts on it. hah...... really

i think it depends on the person and how they are treated by their families. with me, having such a rough upbringing by mine and so much hurt- we don't even speak to each other now. so for me it's pointless

but for some, well... you just have to bear with it- maybe because of personal reasons, maybe because you can't find a place... what ever

as i said for me it's so i can get my brother's support- he's the only person that helps me

Originally Posted by almakic88

I've spoken about this a few times in my threads. I'm 25 and still live at home with my folks. Sometimes I get so angry about this that I feel like I'm in despair.

Is anyone else going through this? I am an adult, I feel like an adult, I know that I should be on my own now. All of my friends seem to be in a similar situation too. I've spoken to some people about it; my former therapist said I have an assertiveness-issue and I let my folks push me around. I guess it's true sometimes, but that's only because you can never win with my folks and sometimes I am sick of fighting for my rights and fighting over every single thing. I let them win battles but I am trying to win the war, so to speak.

Sometimes I experience this almost wild despair because I feel like I'm not in control of my own life, like I can't live my life the way I want to. *rebel yell*

It's unusual to me too how some people are like "so move out! just do it already! do it tomorrow!" as if money is not an issue at all. I can't move out without money. I'm in grad school right now...Probably won't have a legit job for another couple of years at least.

If anyone has any thoughts or words of encouragement...I am all ears.

~Alma

Me! I still live at home an I'm trying my darnedest to get out. I just graduated high school but I am not going to college (I'm 19) so I still have a little bit before they kick me out but right now living there has a really negative effect on my mental health (very looooong story). I can not wait until I get out but I'm stuck until I can make some more money. sorry you're stuck too, hang on until you can get out

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[ThisWayOut]

I'm 34 and just moved back home (with my wife). It's not quite the same, but I feel your pain. My mom is really difficult to live with. She has a lot of anger issues. We have no money to get back out. Its a tough situation...
I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Is there any way you can spend more time out of the house? I know that helps my wife and I get through the weeks.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

I'm 27, still living with my father and step-mother. I'm "disabled" (mentally) and life isn't always as simple as I want a place = I get place. I'm currently in the process of trying to get supported housing, and if I am lucky enough to get it, I'll probably end up in shared housing, with a load of strangers, or yet another single room, where I will continue to feel trapped, alone, and empty. Once the supported housing passes, if I get it, I'll hopefully get a privately rented place.

Anyway, you're not alone.

[breakmystride]

I'm still living at home and sometimes I feel guilty about it, because I'm old enough that I should be more independent, but I don't really want to move out because I don't want to be a real official grown-up. I'm just not an independent kind of person.

[Blue_Bird]

I'm 19 and still at home. I wish I could at least say I'm away at college but that's not the case yet. In reality I'm not ready to be independent. It does frustrate me because it makes me feel like I'm getting nowhere in my life. I know I will though. I need to find a job first and be able to support myself. I'm hoping to be on my own within the next 3 years. That seems like a long time but I think it's enough for me to have some jobs, get some skills, maybe start college and at least have some life experience before jumping out into the world.