Everybody comes to me for help... I can't help everybody...

I don't know, people trust me for some reason. I mean, I'm really trustworthy, but I can't handle everybody's problems. I can't even handle my own, for Christ's sake. I just don't get it though, do I look like a doctor?! I am just so sick of trying to please everybody, cause nobody's ever happy, and that makes me feel like it's my fault. I have problems too, but everybody seems to think I don't have feelings of my own. They treat me like crap and only talk to me when they need somebody to listen. I guess that's all I'm good for. And these people I'm trying to help, for the longest time I stupidly thought we were good friends. I found out they don't care about me like I cared about them. I would have told them anything, I would have trusted them. I feel so betrayed...

Maybe time to tell people to go and see a professional and then change the subject? Or tell them it would be more beneficial if they spoke to the person they are having problems with.

You are not a human waste disposal for other people's junk.

It's so hard to stand up for myself though... Thank you.

Hey CaptainKirk, I might be able to help with this. This is a problem I have to, I'm the rock for everyone around me, the go-to guy. I couldn't figure out why either. Nobody was interested in my problems, nobody was interested in my dreams and aspirations, I didn't get it.

But I'm willing to bet money, marbles or chalk, you have the exact problem I do and it really has nothing to do with the people that keep coming to you. I'll bet you surround yourself with people that need you. It's completely subconscious, but deep, deep, deep down you're the hero of your relationships. I'm not being sarcastic, truly. Waaaaay down deep, you're the opposite of an emotional vampire, you inherently feed strength to others.

The problem is that eventually your tanks run dry and you've got your own problems that you have to try to work through, but you don't have any support because of the people you unconsciously surround yourself with. So here's the trick ...

I think that what you can do is start taking steps to develop a support structure around yourself. You have to find just the right way to ask for help from just the right people. You're attracting "emotional vampires" so you have to be careful. When you ask someone for help, they might get emotional or offended themselves. Again, this is something I'm working on so I can't give specifics.

Anyway, I think the best thing would be to listen to their problems, but let them know that you emotionally can't help them right now. Start to look for a support system and get that proper help that can "refill your tanks".

Hang in there. You can get through this!

P.S. I apologize if some of what I wrote is ... off. I'm fighting some conversion disorder right now and can't really see what I'm writing (matrixing what I see).

That does seem logical... I guess you're right. I have a hard time finding support systems though, but I guess that's because of what you said. Thanks so much, I'll work on this!