Even if I am around other people, I always tend to feel isolated, lonely, and depressed. I feel like no one really doesn't seem to want to take the time to actually get to know me and be friends, they just want to be acquaintances and that's it. Wish I could get past that and make more connections.

[winter4me]

I think you will have to get your courage up, and get your interest up, show interest in others, get involved in group activities....in time, you will find a friend or two or three.
I too tend to feel isolated. There are times when I have had friends, and a few have been there long term, just a few and that is enough. I know that when I am feeling isolated it is because I am stuck inside myself instead of looking outward, around me at the world and others. When it gets bad, I talk to strangers at the next coffee shop table, say hello to others on the street as I walk, watch...and use my camera to wander, look, see, find, and document colors, shapes, and scenes that please my eyes.

I have a lot of acquaintances as well although I feel as though it's partially my fault. The only times I have really made an effort to befriend someone was after they were excited to talk to me first. After some recent bullying I've really just been keeping my head down but loneliness for me is the most unbearable thing so I've been trying to invite people to hang out and watch movies, or make food, or just go out and eat after a day of hard work. It's difficult to be the one who puts themselves out first but I've started to make a few more friends because of it. Don't give up You can do it!

Best of luck!

I feel exactly the same way around people. I feel like everybody already has their established relationships, and just don't need anymore friends. I have taken steps to try and become friends with people, but they never return the feelings. I am sorry you struggle with the same issue.

Originally Posted by GhostofLavender

I feel exactly the same way around people. I feel like everybody already has their established relationships, and just don't need anymore friends. I have taken steps to try and become friends with people, but they never return the feelings. I am sorry you struggle with the same issue.

Yep exactly, and the group of people I do hang out with constantly ignore what I try to say or interrupt me almost every time I try to say something, it is to the point where I feel like they secretly don't value me as an actual friend but more as an acquaintance and someone they feel bad about so they invite me out of obligation. It is not as bad one-on-one but it still can be. I'm sorry you have those problems, feel free to message me if you want to talk.

Originally Posted by RyanLR2015

Yep exactly, and the group of people I do hang out with constantly ignore what I try to say or interrupt me almost every time I try to say something, it is to the point where I feel like they secretly don't value me as an actual friend but more as an acquaintance and someone they feel bad about so they invite me out of obligation. It is not as bad one-on-one but it still can be. I'm sorry you have those problems, feel free to message me if you want to talk.

I feel the same when I am around a group of "friends". I am much, much better with people one-on-one than I am in a group, because then I know the person is actually listening to me haha! Thank you very much, and same to you!

Originally Posted by GhostofLavender

I feel the same when I am around a group of "friends". I am much, much better with people one-on-one than I am in a group, because then I know the person is actually listening to me haha! Thank you very much, and same to you!

Yep exactly, you're welcome and thank you!

I feel like this too.. I learned to just hang out with people one on one instead of in groups unless I am willing to not speak cause I seem to be ignored when in big groups and it makes me feel more alone... so maybe you could see if someone wanted to hang one on one?

Originally Posted by ManicFemale21

I feel like this too.. I learned to just hang out with people one on one instead of in groups unless I am willing to not speak cause I seem to be ignored when in big groups and it makes me feel more alone... so maybe you could see if someone wanted to hang one on one?

Exactly, and the group is not even that big. Me and 4 others tops. Two guys and two girls so it's a coed group as well which I like. Yeah I feel like they probably just think of me as a casual one-on-one friend, not as a full fledged member of the group.

Originally Posted by GhostofLavender

I feel exactly the same way around people. I feel like everybody already has their established relationships, and just don't need anymore friends. I have taken steps to try and become friends with people, but they never return the feelings. I am sorry you struggle with the same issue.

I feel the same here xxx

[helplessinnc]

And here I thought I was the only one with these feelings. It sucks especially when you put yourself out there only to be rejected consistently. My advice is to keep doing it. Even though it hurts to be rejected, eventually someone will appreciate your effort. At least that's what I tell myself.

Originally Posted by RyanLR2015

Exactly, and the group is not even that big. Me and 4 others tops. Two guys and two girls so it's a coed group as well which I like. Yeah I feel like they probably just think of me as a casual one-on-one friend, not as a full fledged member of the group.

Trust me I know what you mean.. I have this "friend" she will invite me once in awhile to hang out with her but she almost always feels the need to invite 2-5 more people along... its frustrating feeling out of place..

[lhrnr00]

I avoid people because I'm so insecure. I try to connect, but I kick myself and feel stupid. I practice being secure by myself when I'm out. I feel like a ghost moving through society. But a happy ghost. I hope I make sense.