[kala83]

so finally my two friends that I have had issues with for months now, have pulled my strings too far, I got into yet again another huge fight with the both of them today. And I am moving on from it I am cutting them out of my life.

Basically what has ended up happening is that, I spent most of the night trying to get a hold of my managers at work to even know if I needed to go into work tonight or not cause no one had ended up putting my schedule out for this week.

Well like usual my two friends were trying to get a hold of me cause they needed to get things taken care of for today such as getting one of my friend's paycheck for today and taking the other one to work at 5....or at least I was supposed to.

I ended up in a real bind, because the evening before my boyfriend had gone out to see his friends and his car sat in front of their house for a while and since its a diesel it needs to be put on a electric charger to keep it's engine at a certain temp to get it to start back up again. Well over at his friends place he had nothing to warm it back up. So he had to get his friends to help him with getting back to his brother's house.

I HAD to be over here cause I lent him my credit card the day before to get us both something to eat, and he had accidentally forgotten that he had the card...I ended up waiting outside his brother's house for a few hours waiting for him to get home. Because I did not have any gas in my card and I had no other way to get gas in my car until I got the card back from him.

He was really stressed out and mad about the situation that happened last night and being the overly sensitive person that I am and caring about my SO I told him that I would help him out with getting his car back not thinking it would be a big deal.

At the time I had forgotten about my male friend's needing to get his paycheck, and had NO IDEA what my female friend's work schedule was at all.

Then this morning while I was yet again trying to get a hold of my manager or assistant manager, so I could find out what my schedule was my female friend called/texted me on my male friend's phone telling me her work schedule and telling me that she had a new job opportunity/interview today and needed to be there by 1pm. She told me this like a hour before she needed to be there and I could not get there quickly enough to help her out. And I can't really help her with getting to work tonight because I did not know how long it would take to help Phil and David.

Well he woke up and she told him about how I could not help her with getting to work tonight because of me wanting to help him and help my boyfriend. And he pretty much decided to start going off about me not being able to help him or help her....and name calling me about my boyfriend, saying how I lived at home and how I was a leach off my mom, how since I lived with her and she pays my bills and I can not, how he is BETTER then me ( and he literally did say those exact words).

And he said a whole lot of other F'd up stuff to me, and I pretty much I got feed up dealing with things, and I walked out of the apartment and grabbed up as much of my stuff as I could and walked out.

he has kept trying to call me get a hold of me to either cuss me out more, and make me feel badly, since I left. Like both of them right now have an infection of clymedia and they remember that at one point I had an infection myself....and they are saying that I AM the cause of them being sick....I got called a slut and dirty ***** by him and they keep trying to call me and get a hold of me I mean now she is trying to get a hold of me an I don't want anything to do with either one of them.

And I am not mad at her its the fact that if I try to talk to her...its gonna in some way shape or form got through Phil in some way. And frankly I am feed up, I am feed up with bending over backward for the both of them and them saying they care about me one day and bashing me the next.

These people are not REAL friends to me and I am past the point of caring about what goes on with them. They have just pushed me that far that I just don't care....

That and the fact that I wanted to help not just my friend but also my boyfriend makes me in the wrong to the both of them, is really f'd up too. I mean Phil made the comment to me of how I want to be with the man that supposedly raped me that I am going to be miserable for the rest of my life. He was trying to make me guilted soo much that some how it worked to his advantage for me to help him and not David.

and now she is trying to call me and talk to me and I am getting to the point where I am turning off my phone to not deal with talking to either one of them, I took them off my skype instant messenger and took them off facebook and blocked them on both.

and it does end up hurting a bit...but honestly what am I supposed to do? continue getting physically and emotionally abused. If it wasn't for her holding him back from me he was going to start getting physically violent with me and all I did was get slightly irritated and started standing up for myself. And that instead of getting into it with her or with him...and have it get to the point of us becoming physical I decided to leave and walk out of there, Yes I am sorry they need to get to work and take care of things and yes I want to help them but I am tried of it going to the point of feeling like I am being disrespected and used by two people that claim to be my best friends but that are abusive to me, threaten to call the cops on me cause I get upset and stand up for myself. Threatening also to put me back into a psych ward. I mean yes I might be hurting them but I am very hurt myself.

[monkeybrains21]

U did the right thing. They are not real friends to u and I do not need to deal with their drAma and irresponsibility. That is their pay check for them to get and their job to get to work. U are not their mommy, u do not wipe their snotty noses. U deserve better.

If u have a personalized voicemail get rid of it go generic. U can go to ur phone provider and block their numbers if they send threatening text save it all, print out all the stuff showing any harassment. Keep records of every thing, phone calls, text, email. If they come by ur house or if u go to school or work keep it all logged and if there is a way to get video get it.

If they do continuously harass u and it disrupts u being able to leave ur house because of fear slap a restraining order on them. If they violate call the cops, just make sure u don't violate or initiate any contact.

[kala83]

yeah I am very much thinking of going and having their numbers blocked i mean I just am feed up and honestly have been for a while I am not dealing with this stuff any more.

and that frankly it.

[shabur]

They are adults and need to be responsible for themselves. Reading your post made me think they are just taking advantage of the fact that you are a nice person.
If they are calling or texting to just talk to you, you may want to text back saying something along the lines of - you don't feel your friendship is healthy and you need to take care of yourself.