[DB Cooper]

I have struggled with self esteem issues/insecurity in relationships my entire adult life though I have been quite successful personally. Because of a strained relationship with my mother who know is suffering from Alzheimer's, the recent loss of my father, and several bad break-ups I sometimes behave in ways that push loved ones away because I am trying to protect myself from getting hurt again. I have been married for 12 years and we have 4 children. For most of those years, it was just me, my wife, and the children. About a year and a half ago we moved to a small town and our circle of friends grew. This past summer my wife and her female boss became best friends. They really enjoy each other's company, they support each other, and their friendship has benefited our marriage in many ways. My wife is happier, my expressive of her emotions, and fun to be around. The problem is...I find myself extremely jealous of their friendship and we have had several arguments about it. I feel that she confides more in her friend than me. Essentially, I feel pushed aside. She says it's not a big deal, but I began taking anxiety medicine because of their friendship. I don't want to continue arguing with my wife. I need coping strategies of how to keep my jealousy in check.

[Flyawayblue]

Maybe you can talk to your wife. I think it might be something about their friendship that is bothering you. Maybe you can seek a therapist to have a safe environment to express your feelings.

[DB Cooper]

Originally Posted by Flyawayblue

Maybe you can talk to your wife. I think it might be something about their friendship that is bothering you. Maybe you can seek a therapist to have a safe environment to express your feelings.

Her friend is unhappily married and drinks heavily.

[Thunder Bow]

You seem more stable and reliable than her "friend". I suggest you tell her that.