[jasdog1994]

I'm a college student who just turned 20 years old. One huge thing I have been dealing with lately is how much I think about How one day I am going to die, my parents will die, etc. and it gets me really flustered and nervous every time to where I need to distract myself with something. It has become a daily thought that crosses my mind regardless of a good day or bad.
Honestly, it's a tough fact to ignore...but I should not be thinking about dying every day if at all. I am only 20 and my parents are only in their early 60s. I don't understand why I think about this so often and at all and know that there must be some way to stop it? Thank you everyone!

[glok]

Hello, jasdog1994. Perhaps helpful:

15 Common Cognitive Distortions
Fixing Cognitive Distortions
Some Ideas to Help Stop Obsessing

[Fishymoon]

Glok the top two links gave me page errors.

[Fishymoon]

Jasdog,
I was obsessed in my teens and 20's with death. Then I studied about reincarnation and learned a lot about myself. I've lived to be 59, and I'm amazed!

Go to your college counseling center and talk with someone, is one suggestion.

Read a book about the stages of dying and grief.

Talk with a minister or study a variety of religions to gain a new perspective.

Be gentle with yourself. Observe the death thought, say STOP, and say an affirmation about enjoying life.

I hope glok gives us better links.

Gentle hug, you're going to be okay. Seek help.

[rishabh.sahni]

you have low self esteem

Originally Posted by jasdog1994

I'm a college student who just turned 20 years old. One huge thing I have been dealing with lately is how much I think about How one day I am going to die, my parents will die, etc. and it gets me really flustered and nervous every time to where I need to distract myself with something. It has become a daily thought that crosses my mind regardless of a good day or bad.
Honestly, it's a tough fact to ignore...but I should not be thinking about dying every day if at all. I am only 20 and my parents are only in their early 60s. I don't understand why I think about this so often and at all and know that there must be some way to stop it? Thank you everyone!

Talk to a doctor, get checked out. There is a reason for it.

[Bumblebuzz12]

It sounds like your afraid of dying which a lot of people are including myself. In fact I would almost consider it normal to be afraid and to think about it. Because we don't know for sure where we go when we die or what happens, we ponder over it and we are afraid of it because life after death could be heaven or hell. Talk to someone about this and get to the bottom of it. Are suicidal? Have a lot of people died in your life? Are you just curious?

[Sad&Bipolar]

When I was in my youth, I worried about my parents dying. I think many young people have similar fears. I agree with the others who have posted that you may want to go to your school's counseling center and speak to someone about this since you seem to be obsessing about it. A therapist will give you a set of tools for handling obsessive thoughts. Check out Mindfulness. The art of staying focused on the present moment helps to avoid a lot of anxiety about things that have not actually happened. Enjoy and savor all your moments with your family as they occur now.

[Funflowerpower11]

Hello Friend,
Sometimes we all have thoughts about how we will die and when. Fears are normal for a young person who is unsure about things in life. Most of us want to live long and healthy lives. We want to get married and have children and see our children grow up.
If you are close with your mom or dad, maybe you could talk to one of them about how you are feeling. It sounds like from your post that you have a good relationship with your parents because you worry about them. Also, counseling is a helpful therapy because the counselors are trained in working through your feelings. I always like to think that there is an angel looking out for each and every one of us to keep us safe and healthy.

[Jolisse]

I use to worry about my parents dying and they did. It took along time, but I have recovered from the loss. I never forget and think about them everyday, but I have to move forward with my life.
Death is part of life and we have to learn to accept it, or you'll go crazy.

[Jolisse]

Originally Posted by Sad&Bipolar

When I was in my youth, I worried about my parents dying. I think many young people have similar fears. I agree with the others who have posted that you may want to go to your school's counseling center and speak to someone about this since you seem to be obsessing about it. A therapist will give you a set of tools for handling obsessive thoughts. Check out Mindfulness. The art of staying focused on the present moment helps to avoid a lot of anxiety about things that have not actually happened. Enjoy and savor all your moments with your family as they occur now.

Mindfulness works very well.