So lately I’ve been feeling very lonely. To be honest, loneliness is a pretty common feeling for me. I actually have feelings of loneliness going back to when I was 13, five years ago. But now it seems like it’s been getting so much worse. I’m a 17 year old girl who has no friends or boyfriend. I guess I’ve just always been kind of an outcast in my life. I’m fat and not very pretty, so maybe this has to do with it? I don’t know. The only thing I know for sure is that I cannot take much more of this. I feel so alone. I feel so hopeless, like no one will ever fall in love with me, like I’m just going to live my life with no one at all to be close to. Anyway, today the feelings of loneliness have been possibly the worst I’ve ever experienced. I’ve been on the verge of tears all day, I’ve looked all over Google for something to help a lonely young girl like me, but all of it’s cliché advice that focuses on waiting and the future but doesn’t give anything to help my immediate situation. Things like “Be patient and you will eventually find true love” or “There’s someone for everyone”. Please! No more. The only thing I want right now is deep companionship, maybe a romantic love. Each day that goes by that I don’t have this kills a little part of me inside and makes me doubt even more that I’ll ever have anyone at all. I feel like giving up.

[nicoleflynn]

Maybe you should get off the internet and get out there.....you could volunteer and meet people that way....begin by making just one friend. There are "tons" of lonely people just like you waiting for a kind word.

Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

Maybe you should get off the internet and get out there.....you could volunteer and meet people that way....begin by making just one friend. There are "tons" of lonely people just like you waiting for a kind word.

I could try, but the only problem I have with this is that I am extremely shy and not at all confident in myself.
I can't just "get out there" and talk to people. It isn't that easy for me.

Forget that I ever posted this thread.
It's not important.

[Hobbit House]

Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl

Forget that I ever posted this thread.
It's not important.

I is important, it should be important to you. I'm shy myself and don't make friends easily either. I met my wife on a website for mentally ill people called No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness You also have this website available for you to make friends on. I know you don't like clichés, I don't blame you. I don't like them either but it does get better.

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl

I could try, but the only problem I have with this is that I am extremely shy and not at all confident in myself.
I can't just "get out there" and talk to people. It isn't that easy for me.

No, it is not all that easy, and there are no quick fixes. Try talking to a counseler at school, and seek a therapist to help you. Many at your age feel what you feel. Honor yourself, and work with a therapist on this.

THANK YOU ((((justusryans)))) and ((((ThunderBow)))).
The reason I posted "forget it" earlier is because I just feel bad for having these emotions. I feel like a failure because most people my age (17) are going out and having fun with friends, and I'm at home alone with no one. It makes me feel inadequate, like something is wrong with me. Like I'm a freak, because I can't do well in social situations. I'm ashamed. I feel like the rut I'm stuck in is my own fault, and I guess that's why I feel so vulnerable expressing these things.

I is important, it should be important to you. I'm shy myself and don't make friends easily either. I met my wife on a website for mentally ill people called No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness You also have this website available for you to make friends on. I know you don't like clichés, I don't blame you. I don't like them either but it does get better.

Thank you justusryans.
The title of the forum you suggested says it's an online social community for adults.
Well, I'm not quite an adult (I'm 17), but do you think they would accept me anyway?
It's cool that you met your wife there, so it's obviously a good place to talk to people and make friends.
Thank you for suggesting this for me!

No, it is not all that easy, and there are no quick fixes. Try talking to a counseler at school, and seek a therapist to help you. Many at your age feel what you feel. Honor yourself, and work with a therapist on this.

Thank you Thunder Bow.
I'm not going to school right now, so I can't talk to a school counselor.
I have some past issues with counselors and therapists also.
I just haven't had very good luck with them.
It seems like I always get the ones who don't know what to say to help me?
They just kind of listen and don't offer anything.
Am I cursed as far as therapists go?

[Fuzzybear]

I can relate to how u feel, im very lonely every single day. I have no friends in real life that I hang out with and been single for over 5 years. but I hope u meet someone <3

[nymphea]

All I can say is that I can relate to everything you said in your post. I've felt this way too many times.

[Thunder Bow]

No, your not cursed. Therapy takes much time. As I said, there is no quick fix. You will make it through these feelings through time and dedication to your own healing.