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Sep 19, 2014, 08:34 PM
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I have loved the man I am with for over 6 years now. We were friends most of our lives up until about 6 months ago when we decided that we wanted something more. We have an amazing relationship... but I feel like I am too attached. I see him everyday... and if I don't I find myself falling apart into shambles and crying. My emotions flood over me and make me feel as though I'll never see him again, even though I know I will soon. I just do not know how to control these feelings, because I am afraid as time passes these feelings with come in the way, especially with his upcoming vacation and birthday that he is spending with friends. I'm not sure if anyone else has felt this way. But I just want to know if there is any hope for me to change? I am just so afraid that I will ruin this amazing relationship with my emotions.
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 shezbut
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Sep 20, 2014, 07:43 AM
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Oh there is lots of hope for you to change.
Love can be very hard to define. Often we mistake it for our own neediness or putting our identity in another person. The goal would be to be happy whether you are with them or not with them. Relationships can trigger all kinds of things once the honeymoon period is over. That can make it very difficult but it also makes for a good opportunity to work on those issues. Therapy, couples counseling, books on it. Two people can learn how to meet each others needs in a healthy way and heal.
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Sep 20, 2014, 12:24 PM
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Do not control your feelings, and do share them.
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