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I am 21 and I quit my job as a nanny today for 3 elementary school aged boys. The older boys were great. They were very respectful and well behaved and I had a blast with them The youngest, aged 5, was horrible. He would refuse to listen, he would terrorize his brothers, and he would make the whole afternoon miserable. He seemed to have a lot of anger and aggression. I tried having a discussion with his parents, but his mom freaked out and threw a tantrum. The mother's reaction and behavior I found to be odd... Her youngest was acting out yet she blamed the older two and screamed at them and made them cry. I understand that she was stressed about being a mom, working, and finishing her degree, but her reaction was unnecessary - let's all be adults here. She makes it clear that her priorities are her college classes and work: She told the kids that herself, saying that they have to grow up and be more self sufficient. I ended up having to work with the father instead, since I guess she couldn't handle her duties as a mother. He set a weak plan for discipline, no real guideline for me to follow. When his son does something bad, he'll scoop him up in his arms, sit him down on his lap and hold and kiss him while he is talking to him. Isn't that confusing for a 5 year old? Things got better, then things took a turn for the worse. The youngest came home from school one day and started hitting me. He would hit me when he wouldn't get his way, and even when I would try to compromise with him. Today, I asked him to put his lunchbox away as it is part of the daily routine that his father and I have established with him - he refused and ran out of the room. I followed him got to his level and said nicely and politely, "You can have a snack when your lunch box is put away" and he slapped me across the face. I was shocked. I asked him why he would hit me and reminded him that we have discussed not hitting people with his dad and he kicked me. He then started throwing punches at me, and I had to restrain him. I carried him to his room kicking and screaming and shut him in his room like his father had told me to do if he got violent. He started to destroy his room, so I tried to get him to stop, and he just kept hitting me. I tried calling his father and texting him while he was at work to come home because the kid was going nuts screaming and crying at the top of his lungs and throwing himself across the room and breaking things. I finally got a hold of him, and as I was talking to him, his son busted out of the room and kicked me super hard in the shin. The father heard this over the phone. I even sent him video I had one of the boys record of him beating up on me. The father told me that his wife would be home shortly. She finally arrives, and is cold to me. She says nothing to me and starts packing up her son's stuff and I ask her what her plan is and she snaps at me saying she has no idea. She will just take her son to work with her. I ask her if she would like to discuss what's going on and if I can show her what he has been doing and she snaps at me. I tell her that her son needs more one-on-one attention with her (I say this because I am tired of being snapped at and dealing with her neglecting her kids emotionally) and she snaps back at me with "Thank you for the assessment and stomps out of the house with her kid. I hear her get on the phone with her husband, the boy's father, and she says "She told me that I don't give him enough attention! I know what his problem is: He is HORRIFIED by her!" - making sure I hear every word. Very mature. I walked to my car and drove off deciding that I would never come back. I didn't even work there for 2 months. I nanny for other families and have never had these kinds of issues. I texted the father saying that I resign because I refuse to be pounded on and then blamed for a child's behavior and would not tolerate the way his wife talked to me and the things she said about me. Over text, he hinted that the situation was my fault basically. I know the parents are in la-la land, but it angers me how most people are so unreasonable that they end up looking insane. I didn't deserve the blame. I deserved an apology for his violent behavior. Any reasonable parent would have taken care of that. I wish I would have seen this coming, but people really know how to charm you at an interview...
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Oct 16, 2014, 11:50 PM
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