[bobbins8897]

Wasn't sure if this was the right forum but hey Ho. ...I met my husband 7 years ago, he had just separated from his wife who he had two young children with. We started seeing each other and he moved in pretty quickly due to circumstances. He suggested we try for a baby which I agreed to as he was so good with his kids. We started to have problems rowing all the time mainly about the past. When I was three months pregnant he refused to tell his ex wife I was expecting so I told him I would tell her myself, at which point I found out they had been having an affair for nearly 6 months. He moved back in with her and said it was for his kids. I often wondered why the child I was pregnant with wasn't enough to make him want to put the effort in with me instead of her. Needless to say 3 years later he decided to leave and told me he'd made a mistake he wanted to be with me. We are now married. My daughter is now nearly 6. He has shared custody of his other two children so we have them at least three times a week overnight. My problem is , well more to the point problems are , for starters I don't like his other children, all I see in them is their mother. They are rude, bratty and constantly talking of happy memories they all shared as a family whilst I struggled to look after my daughter by myself. Secondly I cannot let go of the betrayal?, I can not let go of the feeling of humiliation and heartache he left me with. I am constantly in fear that eventually he will leave if not to go back to her them for someone else. In the time since we got back together he has never actually given me reason to think this. He has gone out of his way to support me and make me happy. Nothing seems to work, because really all I want is for his ex wife to no longer be a presence in our life, however as long as he has children with her then she will be. I have grown evermore angry and resentful toward him and his kids. It's ruining our relationship, an I fear if I don't get my emotions in check we won't last for very much longer. I used to be able to del with this so much better. I don't know what happened but now it seems I am incapable. Please help ! It's making me miserable and angry all the time. Thank you

[jelly-bean]

You should consider trying marital counseling together and co-parenting counseling for blended families. It can be a big help to both of you. Good Luck!

[Tommo]

Counseling...yep, I agree.........

[Crazy Hitch]

I can understand your anxiety in this relationship. You've been through a lot and still are.

You need to work on getting your emotions better and follow it through with couples counseling.