my ex bf & i broke up 4days ago & im a wreck. he was my first love and i was his. we just kept fighting over nonsense and he got sick of it (& while he says its hard for him...although he did the dumping) - I'm pretty depressed. i don't wanna be at work but i don't wanna be at home. my mind is on over load & i haven't eaten. any support would help right now thank you

[gayleggg]

(((((((sarahhxx03)))))))

Breakups are never easy and the first love is always special. I'm not surprised you are depressed. Give yourself some time. Try to eat a little something it will help you cope better. Try to rest. I know that probably won't be easy but you need it. Even if you don't sleep you will benefit from lying down for a while. Also, try to focus on your breathing. It will calm you down and keep your mind busy.

im trying. i actually been writing my thoughts down which seems to be helping and ate a little something tonight. time is gonna suck though. lol but thank you

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by sarahhxx03

im trying. i actually been writing my thoughts down which seems to be helping and ate a little something tonight. time is gonna suck though. lol but thank you

Great idea...

[shezbut]

Listen to opposite to emotion music (so if sad, listen to happy music, etc.); or watch a funny show; play games; color or draw; work on arts & crafts; read a novel; and so forth.

(((((hugs)))))

[avlady]

Welcome Sarah, yes try to listen to nice music,soft, get out a good cry no matter how much you have to it will definately help

[agatha9]

I remember when my first boyfriend broke up with me. He left a letter in my locker, he didn't have the guts to tell me face to face that he had cheated on me and was seeing an old friend of mine. I cried and cried and cried. At school, at home, at the bus... I cried everywhere. Every night I listened to sad sad songs and wrote letters that were never delivered. I cried for about three months. It hurt. It hurt really bad. But now it seems that it was a good idea to let myself suffer so much. It was part of the experience.

As we grow up, people will come and go until we find the ones who will be there to stay. Some people appear at the right place and time to teach us something, to help us through certain situations, to fulfill a task in our lives. Then they'll just go. And when their time comes to go and look for new experiences with new people, we will start fighting for anything and everything. The real reason is that we don't fit anymore, that we don't need each other anymore, that something deep inside of us is telling us to go to the next chapter in our lives.

If it's any consolation, my first boyfriend and I are still very good friends, and we were together more than 15 years ago. We could establish a very good friendship just a few months after we broke up. First love may be the most sincere, so if based on friendship and honesty, you can be friends forever as long as you understand you have to grow and go your separate ways. At least until you can tell if you are meant to be forever... Or not.

Be strong and let yourself live all of this. I assure you it will never be the same.

yeaa ive been listening to like break up type songs lol we're trying to be friends, he actually said yesterday he doesn't know why its so hard. we were eachothers first loves, so its def hard. thank all you guys for your advice!