want to go back in time......

I'm feeling really depressed right now. I keep wishing I could go back in time and change things. I know I can't. But I hate my life right now. My daughter can't stand being around me. I know she's ashamed of me. She never wants to come home. She complains about how much she hates our house, how she can't stand being around any of us. She goes to work than is out all night with her boyfriend or her friends. Occasionally, she'll come home to eat something and holler at me because I didn't cook her dinner--when I never even see her!

I told her she can move out at any time. She is an adult with a job, and doesn't like being here, so there's no reason to be here! I want to sell the house anyway and get some low income housing with the little bit of money I do get. But she doesn't want to move out. She wants me to keep the house in case she ever does come home, so she doesn't have to look for another place.

I hate to say this honey-

but maybe it's not you. Maybe it's your selfish, manipulative daughter?

You may not like this but, since your daughter is an adult and has a job, you should go right ahead and sell the house. You do what you want to do! She sounds like she is disrespectful and needs to learn what it means to be an adult. It's time she started to care for herself. You have done it long enough. She will make her own path and you should follow yours. It's tough love but it's time. At least in my opinion that's what needs to happen.

Wow, Jelly Bean is right on. Shortandcute, sell the house, your adult daughter will be fine!

Have you tried counseling together?