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Apr 30, 2015, 07:36 AM
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2 years of therapy and those feelings have never gone away. Job interviews are triggering these feelings to the point that I can not breathe and just want to disapear. I am tired of struggling with trying to amount to something because I never do. I always just recoil back into a hole and hope I will just melt into the ground.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Apr 30, 2015, 12:03 PM
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Job interviews means your trying to do something for your self. That is what is triggering those feelings. This a normal part of Healing. This is because you letting go of those kind of feelings about yourself, and that can cause much anxiety.
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Apr 30, 2015, 12:29 PM
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I think it is stemming from shame. Shame of myself for getting overwhelmed to easily, not being able to handle many things at once, not emotionally resilient. I am ashamed that I am not able to open up my own business because I can not handle that kind of stress and deal with that amount of work and uncertainty. It was just a pipe dream and I told everyone I was going to do it. Now I have to let go of that dream knowing it died because I give up to easy in the face of hard work and stress.
I have to learn how to accept my limitations.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| avlady, BLUEDOVE, H3rmit, newday2020, seeminglyreal
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Apr 30, 2015, 01:10 PM
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>I have to learn how to accept my limitations.
Exactly. We all have them. Even great achievers often have nasty personal faults, but they probably don't dwell on them. Try to give yourself a break. I find meditation helps with anxiety. Also, breathe! And meditation is often all about breathing, so that is part of why it helps. It's relaxing. Precisely what you may need. I used to have anxiety that people called panic attacks, so it is curable over time. People always said to me, "Don't be so hard on yourself." So, I pass that on to you in hopes that it can be something to focus on instead of worrying you're not good enough.
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May 04, 2015, 11:39 PM
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Job interviews send me into spirals im awake tonight and cant sleep cause I. Applied to jobs and im so anxious...because work stress makes me have melt downs...I cant give you advice cause im new here and new to bipolar but I can tell you I understand and hope things go ok...hugs
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May 05, 2015, 08:35 AM
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i hope you feel better soon. i am retired but remember job interviews-scarry. i hope you get a job you can handle maybe something easy for you to do? good luck
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