[KristenRenee]

Hi. I just recently ended a relationship I had with a man who also has a mental illness. He has Schitzophrenia and bipolar. I really let myself get tangled up emotionally with him and let by heart get broken. I just couldn't put up with his constantly changing personalities from day to day. One day he would love me, touch me, and want to be with me. Then he would withdraw and stay away from me for up to 2 weeks at a time. He said that was just the way he was. I was convinced I was in love with him and believed everything he told me. I craved the attention that he would show me when he was in his "good" personality. It's like a tug of war and it really got me emotionally messed up. I feel like such a fool for letting myself get involved with a man who also has a mental illness. 2 sickies don't make a right. I tried to be understanding as I have bipolar myself, but that can only go so far. Now the hard part is to try not to think about him all the time and forget the good memories because it hurts too much. I will NEVER let myself feel this way over a man again in my life. It's just not worth it.

[CANDC]

Kristen, I am sorry you suffered so deeply in a relationship. Perhaps there are lessons here a t could help you understand so your choice of a partner is based on the real possibility of getting what you need and hope for in a relationship.

I make mistakes all the time. I just try to not make the same mistake over and over again. That is what I call learning from my mistakes.

Next time could be better.

[KristenRenee]

Originally Posted by CANDC

Kristen, I am sorry you suffered so deeply in a relationship. Perhaps there are lessons here a t could help you understand so your choice of a partner is based on the real possibility of getting what you need and hope for in a relationship.

I make mistakes all the time. I just try to not make the same mistake over and over again. That is what I call learning from my mistakes.

Next time could be better.

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it. I hope I have learned from this. Right now I can't even imagine ever falling in love with anyone again. It just hurts too much. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve as they say.

[avlady]

candc is right if you give yourself more chances more good ones could come along too.

[oliamble]

Kristen allow me to give my opinion. Just because the way you put it "two sickies" don't make a right doesn't equate what society and science wants you to believe to alienate someone because they have a condition. Above all, you are two human beings, regardless of what condition you suffer from.

Put it this way, a couple...analogy...one suffers from an absent kidney, the other is in a wheel chair (two different conditions) or one has diabetes and the other suffers from anxieties (same comparison) it doesn't matter what decease, condition, or creed one or the other has for it to have something to do with the end result.

Apparently it is just a relationship that is not working out or didn't work out. Just like millions of others out there regardless of they have a condition or not.

I really hope your heart will heal soon and that you will overcome your separation. No one wants a separation from a person whom one considers their other half.