When I realize that I am alone most of the time I get this negative feeling that makes me depressed, anxious and angry, but at the same time I am not interested in talking to others and form relationships. Is anyone in a similar situation?

[Dog on a Tree]

Hello SDavid, i'm not in a similar position. It comes across as being a confusing situation to be in.

[freaka]

i am in the same situation. just now i'm beginning to realize that by being alone too much, i tend to dwell on negativities and get into a deep funk. but i really dislike talking to people or making friends, i don't even care enough to properly maintain the few friends i have.

a difficult spot, sdavid, that i can relate to very well.

[Protectiva]

I wonder if an animal could help? That way you aren't alone but you don't have to deal with a person? Just a thought...

Originally Posted by Protectiva

I wonder if an animal could help? That way you aren't alone but you don't have to deal with a person? Just a thought...

Actually, I can manage alone very well. With time, I have created many activities to amuse myself and to pass the time. But I feel I am not normal when I walk down the street, or go to movies. All people are in pairs or more. I would like to have friends and be in a relationship. But on the other hand, I am not motivated to talk to others and initiate and maintain a relationship. That is why I am confused by my feelings. It is not that I am bored being alone. I mean, sometimes, but most of the time I do just fine.

[Protectiva]

I think I understand. You have ambivalent feelings, two opposite feelings existing at the same time. You feel like you want friends and a significant other but at the same time don't really want to actually take the steps that would make that happen. So, you're not bored being alone... do you feel lonely? Or is it more that you feel strange, out of step somehow, because you are solitary most of the time?

Originally Posted by Protectiva

I think I understand. You have ambivalent feelings, two opposite feelings existing at the same time. You feel like you want friends and a significant other but at the same time don't really want to actually take the steps that would make that happen. So, you're not bored being alone... do you feel lonely? Or is it more that you feel strange, out of step somehow, because you are solitary most of the time?

I do feel lonely, but I feel lonely when with others, too. I feel I am not tuned to the social life, I guess. I don't understand and I am not being understood. I don't like what people like to talk about. They like to talk about weathers, movies, girls, parties, songs, ... etc. I am just not interested in what others like to talk about. I think this is part of it. I also find most people are hypocrites, they just try to appear nice and to take a leading role, and careless and lazy. I just don't like these things. I am sure there are good people out there, but I am talking from my own experience.

[Thunder Bow]

Having the capacity to be alone with yourself, means you are very mature. Just go with it, and enjoy yourself. You are comfortable with yourself, and as a result your prefer deeper conversations, with out being a baby saying da - da -da here I am!

[iwonderaboutstuff]

I know this one! I'm perfectly content by myself. In reality most people bore the s*** out of me and I'm not at all inclined to put forth the effort. Sometimes it does hit, the separateness.