[C2015]

My sister has been separated for a year. She is still legally married. She is on her fourth marriage. She is only two years older than me. I have only been married once.

Earlier this month I found out she has a boyfriend. I am extremely bitter and angry. I have been legally divorced for three years. I have my divorce papers. I have prayed to God for three years for a boyfriend. I am still single. Yet my sister is still legally married and has a boyfriend. She is also still married in the eyes of God.

Even my much younger brother has a girlfriend. I am the only one single. Both of my parents say I am low maintenance and my sister is high maintenance. I know men prefer a low maintenance woman.

Please help me to not let this bother me. Today is the third day I have been depressed over this. My sister has always had it easier than me on everything.

[Thunder Bow]

Sounds like your sister is the one who should envy you. You got yourself together. She is still following a path that will only get her into more trouble.

[C2015]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Sounds like your sister is the one who should envy you. You got yourself together. She is still following a path that will only get her into more trouble.

Thank you for saying that it does help.

As soon as one relationship ends she is immediately looking for a new one. Last year 2-3 months after her and her husband separated she started whining about being alone. I thought try it for two years.

What it is she hates being alone with herself. I am comfortable with being alone with just myself.

My sister goes from knowing men for a very short amount of time and gets married. She even said she gets bored to easily with men.

Last year I got engaged and thankfully by taking my time on getting married I found out he wasn't right for me.

She is the one with the problem. She is the one living the unhappy life.

No one wants to be alone but I wonder if it is important to your sense of self to be in a relationship - that you don't feel complete without one; and, that you need to be seen to be in a relationship.

I honestly think you are the healthier of the two of you

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by C2015

My sister has been separated for a year. She is still legally married. She is on her fourth marriage. She is only two years older than me. I have only been married once.

Earlier this month I found out she has a boyfriend. I am extremely bitter and angry. I have been legally divorced for three years. I have my divorce papers. I have prayed to God for three years for a boyfriend. I am still single. Yet my sister is still legally married and has a boyfriend. She is also still married in the eyes of God.

Even my much younger brother has a girlfriend. I am the only one single. Both of my parents say I am low maintenance and my sister is high maintenance. I know men prefer a low maintenance woman.

Please help me to not let this bother me. Today is the third day I have been depressed over this. My sister has always had it easier than me on everything.

That is a recipe for drama, but if your sister is high maintanence she may thrive on drama. I think it's better to wait for the right person to come along than get involved with the first person who comes along. I'd say with her 4th marriage ending, it's clear she does not choose the best partners. Even though she has a boyfriend, that does not mean that the relationship is healthy or good or will last. Are you putting yourself out there to meet potential dating partners? If not, maybe take that step to meet some new people.

[ChipperMonkey]

4 failed marriages?

I'll stop there before I say something mean.

[Teddy Bear]

I've been divorced over 3 years. No girlfriend in sight. Don't judge your self worth by the fact that you don't have a relationship. I look at the fact that my relatives are married but I'm not convinced they are happy. I'm probably like you trying to get it right on the next relationship.