[Aviza]

Okay so now I have a crush on the supervisor guy at the repair shop. He pulled me aside, was always the guy calling about my car, but I don't know if that's just how he is to everyone, though he did give me free sparks plugs because he knew I just replaced mine (he thought that would help). It didn't. I came in and talked initially to a different guy, whose main job is customer relations.

He's really tall and well cuter than his website picture, and seems nice. No ring, but that's no guarantee either. I'm just wondering. My regular mechanic once put gas in the car (took longer to repair than planned) and didn't charge the extra $20, but spark plugs???? He brought the old ones in the bag and showed them to me even.

Took time to tell write down the parts that still needed to be replaced to get it running good (knew I couldn't afford any more repairs). I know if he really wants to see me he'll find a way, but I'm just curious. Am I making something out of nothing, or could he have been showing interest?

Yes I still like men.

[Pierro]

Why dont you ask him out for a coffee to thank him for the spark plugs... If you never ask, you will never know!
Best wishes

[ChicaCupcake]

If it were me I'd ask his friend to ask for me.

[Aviza]

I've learned girls don't ask guys out. Tried more than once in my life. Didn't go well.

Initiate contact. Offer a coffee - maybe bring one by for him as a start. It would certainly give you opportunity to further guage his feelings.

[TishaBuv]

Next time you take your car in (for a legitimte reason), give him a casual little complement like (I know it's cheesy but) "You're always so nice to me, a girl could get used to this". If he's interested, he'll flirt back, maybe ask you for a coffee. If he's not interested, he'll still think you're a really nice person.

[IceCreamKid]

I would take cookies into the shop. Either homemade or good ones from whatever bakery is popular where you live.

[RomanSunburn]

I like the idea of bringing coffee or cookies to him. I think it's cute

[Aviza]

It's an hour away. It would be obvious I was being more than nice. I was heading to a songwriting meeting downtown when tge car quit. AAA suggested their shop.

[CopperStar]

"How do you know if a guy is showing interest?"

In my perception, most of the time you won't, because for a lot of guys, the fear of being rejected is too severe. I think a lot of men worry their interests will be perceived as "creepy" or "inappropriate" or as harassment.

So to me it seems like a lot of men will drop very subtle hints that may often go entirely unnoticed, or in this possible case, do seemingly random things in the hopes that the woman will connect the dots.

I think that in most cases, it's necessary to give clear signs that you're interested in the guy, to give him the confidence to be more direct.

[FireIsland123]

Mechanics often don't wear rings at work because if you crush it by accident with some tool, it really, REALLY hurts - or something even worse. Maybe start by asking him about what cars are really reliable, then ask what kind of car his wife drives. If he says not married, ask "your girlfriend?" He should get the hint - unless he's a real motorhead. GOOD LUCK!

I'm rereading your original post.

Look, this guy didn't do anything out of the ordinary. Nothing my service guy wouldn't do for me. Go ahead with dropping off a coffee and see where it goes but just don't get disappointed. Doing anything more would be downright creepy.

He's gained himself a happy repeat customer which may have been his only intent.

[RomanSunburn]

Originally Posted by rcat

I'm rereading your original post.

Look, this guy didn't do anything out of the ordinary. Nothing my service guy wouldn't do for me. Go ahead with dropping off a coffee and see where it goes but just don't get disappointed. Doing anything more would be downright creepy.

He's gained himself a happy repeat customer which may have been his only intent.

Dude, I think I need to find some better auto mechanics...

Aviza, maybe you have to go to another songwriting meeting downtown?

I have a really crappy car RomanSunburn and have made a lot of visits to my garage. He does the minimum to keep it running and I do my best to bring it in for the regular maintenance and slowly work through the recommended repairs. Maybe it's that he feels sorry for me, maybe it's my being a woman, but he has done things like throw in an oil change, replace my light bulbs, and repair a tire for free.

In return he gets a happy repeat customer. He also gets a lot of free advertising as I and likely other customers give him rave reviews.

It hasn't occured to me to read any additional motive into this.

[Walking Man]

I imagine that if a mechanic does something nice for you he's just doing a good job. It's a good indication he likes you, but nothing more. Some guys like to be respectful and considerate of women (as strange and "sexist" as that sounds today.) If he is particularly chatty, or compliments you, stands close, eye contact, etc. he might be interested. He might be interested and do absolutely nothing, but that doesn't help, obviously.

Some working guys take off their ring to avoid injury, or smashing up the ring.

If you brought him cookies he would love you forever. Cookies=Love. All the guys in the shop would love that. I promise you it would make their day.

I'm pretty much a total failure in this area, as I'm shy and not so comfortable approaching women. However, I believe that Copper Star is right. I constantly hear women talking about "creeps" and "jerks". Now there may in fact be a lot of creeps and jerks, but when you hear it so often it has an effect.

If he stands tall in front of you, or puts his hands on his hips, has his shoulders back, shows you money, tries to make you laugh, there is a chance he wants to date you. These are classic male techniques for showing strength and intelligence in order to secure a potential mate.

[Teddy Bear]

Find him outside of his work and see how he reacts to you.