[unconditional52]

OMG!!! My emotions have been all over the place today, I don't even know if i'm posting in the right spot right now, I jus need to post because i'm about to explode and to the average person, it's probably over nothing but to me, i'm feeling so dismissed and invalidated right now and this is not a good feeling especially when it's coming from your Daughter. It's making me feel really sad because i've been struggling with our relationship for quite some time and can't figure out what the problem is, she is an only child but an adult with a child which makes it that much more difficult because my Grand Daughter is the joy of my world and honestly, her being has saved my life in more ways than one. I'm really angry tonight because my Daughter borrowed a cooking utensil of mine to prepare her dinner, asked me if I wanted her to bring me some, texted me a pic of the food and when I called to see if she was still coming she said "not tonight". I'm angry because she was to bring back my utensil TODAY because I let her friend use my crock pot 3 months ago and have not got it back yet even after I have called and asked for it, yes, i'm pissed off because I told her no at first but felt guilty and said yes because she said she would bring it back today

Perhaps something came up?

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Yes, perhaps something in her own life caused her plans to change. BUT, she owed you an explanation. She also owed you making alternate arrangements. And, when taking the utensil, she should have clearly advised you of what plans she had for returning it. You however, owed it to yourself to tell her your expectations.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by unconditional52

OMG!!! My emotions have been all over the place today, I don't even know if i'm posting in the right spot right now, I jus need to post because i'm about to explode and to the average person, it's probably over nothing but to me, i'm feeling so dismissed and invalidated right now and this is not a good feeling especially when it's coming from your Daughter. It's making me feel really sad because i've been struggling with our relationship for quite some time and can't figure out what the problem is, she is an only child but an adult with a child which makes it that much more difficult because my Grand Daughter is the joy of my world and honestly, her being has saved my life in more ways than one. I'm really angry tonight because my Daughter borrowed a cooking utensil of mine to prepare her dinner, asked me if I wanted her to bring me some, texted me a pic of the food and when I called to see if she was still coming she said "not tonight". I'm angry because she was to bring back my utensil TODAY because I let her friend use my crock pot 3 months ago and have not got it back yet even after I have called and asked for it, yes, i'm pissed off because I told her no at first but felt guilty and said yes because she said she would bring it back today

Was there a large gap in time between her texting you a picture and then saying "not tonight?" That seems really rude and kind of awful! I'm hoping maybe it was a hour or two later and by then the food was put away... Why did you feel guilty for saying no initially?