[kittyfaye]

I keep feeling overwhelmed with all the different emotions I keep feeling. Anger, depression, anxiety, restlessness, etc. I really want to punch a wall so bad. This year and last year has been really hard for me. I broke off a two year relationship with my now ex in April this year. He was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I've completely cut him out of my life but I still have flashbacks and nightmares of stuff he did to me. He yelled at me hard several times and I still cringe when I hear someone yell.

I lived on campus at school last semester but had to move after the semester ended because it was too expensive. I had an acquaintance that got evicted out of her house and I couldn't find anyone else to share a place with because I can't afford a place by myself, and neither could she. I should have known better not to have her as a roommate because the reason she got evicted was the fact she had nine cats in her house and she let them ***** everywhere and there were fleas and german roaches all in that disgusting house. A friend's husband and I made her throw out most of her furniture and we had to help her clean the house. Everything stunk so she had soak her clothes and stuff in strong detergent to get the smell out. When we got the apartment, she slept on my couch for weeks. She was messy and never straightened it up after she got up. she finally got a mattress that has on the floor. But that is not the end of it all. The whole summer she kept putting the a/c on 80 and it gets really hot here in the summer. I kept turning it down. That lastedd the entire summer. She leaves plates and bowls out, never washes dishes, gets crumbs everywhere and never sweeps, never cleans up after herself. I am SO sick and tired of living in an aprtment the looks like a dump and it doesn't smell great. My family never wants to come over because they hate her, and so does my one friend. My roommate is rude to me every time someone actually comes over. I rescued a kitten and she took it from me. Now that it's winter, I haven't messed with the a/c and I leave it on heat because the apartment doesn't hold heat very well. She is now putting it on 55, and I keep putting it on 70. Last night she put tape on the thermostat, I guess because she thought I wouldn't be able to get it off and give up. She erased the stuff on my dry erase board. I asked her if she took the last bit of my cat food and she blew up. I wrote a facebook status about it saying Bye Felicia... I forgot she could see it and she got pissed off. I had my door shut and locked so she couldn't come in. We haven't spoken to each other in a week and the taping the thermostat was the last straw for me. We still have 6 more months on the contract but I can't take 6 more months of this hell. There has to be a way to break lease, I'm trying to study for finals and she is making it very difficult to study. I work full time also. I cannot deal with this anymore. I have some other internal issues with myself and I can't focus on getting better because she wants to be a slob and a butthole. What can I do??

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by kittyfaye

I keep feeling overwhelmed with all the different emotions I keep feeling. Anger, depression, anxiety, restlessness, etc. I really want to punch a wall so bad. This year and last year has been really hard for me. I broke off a two year relationship with my now ex in April this year. He was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I've completely cut him out of my life but I still have flashbacks and nightmares of stuff he did to me. He yelled at me hard several times and I still cringe when I hear someone yell.

I lived on campus at school last semester but had to move after the semester ended because it was too expensive. I had an acquaintance that got evicted out of her house and I couldn't find anyone else to share a place with because I can't afford a place by myself, and neither could she. I should have known better not to have her as a roommate because the reason she got evicted was the fact she had nine cats in her house and she let them ***** everywhere and there were fleas and german roaches all in that disgusting house. A friend's husband and I made her throw out most of her furniture and we had to help her clean the house. Everything stunk so she had soak her clothes and stuff in strong detergent to get the smell out. When we got the apartment, she slept on my couch for weeks. She was messy and never straightened it up after she got up. she finally got a mattress that has on the floor. But that is not the end of it all. The whole summer she kept putting the a/c on 80 and it gets really hot here in the summer. I kept turning it down. That lastedd the entire summer. She leaves plates and bowls out, never washes dishes, gets crumbs everywhere and never sweeps, never cleans up after herself. I am SO sick and tired of living in an aprtment the looks like a dump and it doesn't smell great. My family never wants to come over because they hate her, and so does my one friend. My roommate is rude to me every time someone actually comes over. I rescued a kitten and she took it from me. Now that it's winter, I haven't messed with the a/c and I leave it on heat because the apartment doesn't hold heat very well. She is now putting it on 55, and I keep putting it on 70. Last night she put tape on the thermostat, I guess because she thought I wouldn't be able to get it off and give up. She erased the stuff on my dry erase board. I asked her if she took the last bit of my cat food and she blew up. I wrote a facebook status about it saying Bye Felicia... I forgot she could see it and she got pissed off. I had my door shut and locked so she couldn't come in. We haven't spoken to each other in a week and the taping the thermostat was the last straw for me. We still have 6 more months on the contract but I can't take 6 more months of this hell. There has to be a way to break lease, I'm trying to study for finals and she is making it very difficult to study. I work full time also. I cannot deal with this anymore. I have some other internal issues with myself and I can't focus on getting better because she wants to be a slob and a butthole. What can I do??

Are you both on the lease?

[Alone & confused]

I don't know much about how leases work, but could you file a complaint that she's creating an "unlivable" environment for you and either have her evicted or break the lease that way?

[kittyfaye]

Originally Posted by Alone & confused

I don't know much about how leases work, but could you file a complaint that she's creating an "unlivable" environment for you and either have her evicted or break the lease that way?

Yes, both of our names are on the lease. I actually went to the front office today and reported her for lease violations. The manager came with me (my roommate was gone at this point) to look at the apartment. She was able to write up a lease violation, actually a few, from her stuff. She wrote it up with both of our names on it but told me my name is only on there because both our names are on the lease. So my roommate has no idea hopefully that I even said anything at all. We had a spat over the thermostat again this morning, with her telling me to leave it alone. So I reported her. She has 48 hours to get her stuff cleaned up.

Everybody I have talked to about this keeps telling me to talk to her. I am done with her, period. I have tried to clean her stuff up, tried to talk to her, tried to her to clean up her own junk, to no avail. I cannot and will not talk to her again until she can act like a civilized adult and not blow up about stupid crap. I will see if she can get her stuff cleaned up within 48 hours and if not, she may or may not get evicted. Again. I have to see if that would affect me or not since both names are on the lease.

I went back to the apartment after having an anxiety attack on the way back from work, fed my cats, grabbed my backpack and a change of clothes and left. I can't deal with her tonight. I have had two anxiety attacks today because of her. I won't let it go on anymore.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by kittyfaye

Yes, both of our names are on the lease. I actually went to the front office today and reported her for lease violations. The manager came with me (my roommate was gone at this point) to look at the apartment. She was able to write up a lease violation, actually a few, from her stuff. She wrote it up with both of our names on it but told me my name is only on there because both our names are on the lease. So my roommate has no idea hopefully that I even said anything at all. We had a spat over the thermostat again this morning, with her telling me to leave it alone. So I reported her. She has 48 hours to get her stuff cleaned up.

Everybody I have talked to about this keeps telling me to talk to her. I am done with her, period. I have tried to clean her stuff up, tried to talk to her, tried to her to clean up her own junk, to no avail. I cannot and will not talk to her again until she can act like a civilized adult and not blow up about stupid crap. I will see if she can get her stuff cleaned up within 48 hours and if not, she may or may not get evicted. Again. I have to see if that would affect me or not since both names are on the lease.

I went back to the apartment after having an anxiety attack on the way back from work, fed my cats, grabbed my backpack and a change of clothes and left. I can't deal with her tonight. I have had two anxiety attacks today because of her. I won't let it go on anymore.

I hope it gets better!! It's a shame she's on the lease, otherwise you could just kick her out and change the locks - extreme but so is her behavior and mess it sounds like. I'd just make really really sure they will evict her but not you because if you break a lease or are evicted it looks very very bad. I broke a lease once and had to provide my new potential landlord copies of the money orders showing where I had paid them back what they said I owed (the 3 months rent basically) because they had reported it on my credit report and I was told that typically the place I wanted to rent from would deny you if you had ever broken a lease and/or been evicted. It was even something that my mortgage provider questioned when I went to buy a house and it was back in 2007.

[kittyfaye]

Originally Posted by DBTDiva

I hope it gets better!! It's a shame she's on the lease, otherwise you could just kick her out and change the locks - extreme but so is her behavior and mess it sounds like. I'd just make really really sure they will evict her but not you because if you break a lease or are evicted it looks very very bad. I broke a lease once and had to provide my new potential landlord copies of the money orders showing where I had paid them back what they said I owed (the 3 months rent basically) because they had reported it on my credit report and I was told that typically the place I wanted to rent from would deny you if you had ever broken a lease and/or been evicted. It was even something that my mortgage provider questioned when I went to buy a house and it was back in 2007.

I am most definitely making sure I will not violate lease or anything if she gets evicted. As soon as I get off work tomorrow I'm going to the front office and telling them we got the paper but I think my roommate may have stuck it back on the door for me. Just different things make me think she got it wednesday but stuck back on the door. I'm going to ask the manager tomorrow what will happen if she gets evicted. She shouldn't have been able to sign the lease to begin with because of previous eviction. Our old manager didn't get work orders done and swept things under the rug so the new managers are taking on this huge project to improve the whole apartment complex. I hope she gets evicted because she hasn't cleaned up anything and that would be a huge burden off my chest. I don't need this petty drama in my life. It's childish and immature.

[avlady]

this sounds like an awful thing to be going through. i hope she does get evicted, do you plan on staying there if she is evicted?

[Thunder Bow]

Move out anyway. Forget the lease, the roommate and all. Pack everything and move out!

[kittyfaye]

I actually might be able to move out. The manager talked to my roommate and she (roommate) said something about moving her sister in if I move out. The manager told me she can talk to the legal person with the property to see if I can be removed from the lease. Then after the holidays, I can come talk to her about finding a one bedroom because that's when people start moving out. There isn't any one bedroom apartments available right now but I have high hopes for this working out. I hope she can lower the rent or work something out to where I can afford it. The one bedrooms here are around $500-$550/month. Splitting a two bedroom right now with the current place is $625 a month with w/d connections, which makes it $312.50/month for each of us. The cost of living here is pretty low but jobs here don't pay crap.