[Fightharder]

Hi I have been victim of this awful experience

My supervisor and her supervisor showed me how harmful this experience can be. Gossip, favoritism. Retaliation, lies, power abuse and buy other"s silence team I what I have saw. Isolation and useless assignments is what I have from them

I reported this twice dos two years, I hope this time works for me, because the first time only was helpful to live all this year painful retaliation

I develop insomnia, a contracture for stress in my shoulder

My husband is worry and angry with the situation because he has seen me to work hard and ethically
I brought chaos in my house and family because this. I have altered they live of my family

I don't know how to talk about this implications with the person in HR who took my report: I would like to explain that although they need to confirm what I said I'm not liaying about things that nobody wants to their life's. Why should I lie about that?

I don't know how to bring peace to my house and family. I don't how to start my life as it used to be. How to re - build my life in the way it used to be, I'm burn out as well is my family. I'm worry these people are experts in cheat and I know even I'm saying the true, this case couldnt be close to my favor, so in the mean time the claeificstion arrives, I don't have peace and my family neither as they have seen me struggle hard on this

[Thunder Bow]

Are you in the process of looking for a new job? The current situation will only get worse, no matter what you try doing.

Legally, your HR department is required to address this situation. Do you have an EAP with this firm (Employee Assistance Program)?

[vonmoxie]

H.R. are not your friends. Humans are simply the resource they manage, and corporate is their boss just like everyone else. Outside of managing for a few particular situations like sexual harassment and discrimination which they only bother with in order to avoid culpability and expensive lawsuits, they don't generally work in the interests of the employee. Not over the interests of the company and its departments and maximizing its bottom line.

Perhaps look into other jobs at your company so you can start fresh with some people you haven't gotten into this pattern with; there could be openings that come up in another division or area where your skill set will be applicable. Most companies prefer to hire from within because it saves them money.

[Fightharder]

Complete agree HR sometimes don't work well in this situations, even its their work.
I have seen as well that this kind of harassment or retaliation is hard to prove
Yes I'm looking for a job, but nothing good so far
The things is that living every day since 2 years ago in this situation, puts me in angry situation ... You know ... I look justistice I'm hungry for that ... I'm starting to become a bitter and negative person. Without hope ... Waiting for the worst from others ... I can be angry and suddenly be sad ... This situation put me in a very low position ... Sometime I feel I'm very close to have a break down is like this thing my supervisor did with the support of her supervisor make my soul dust ...

[shezbut]

I experienced the same thing, when I was around 21 y.o. and relatively new to working full-time. I worked in a small office (accounting), I was responsible for payroll for the entire company. My office-mates weren't exactly "mates" however. Instead, they constantly talked smack about everyone who worked for the company. I HATED it!! I tried standing up for those that they talked about... big mistake. That put me on the chopping block, which I could feel almost immediately.

Every single day, I had to force myself to go to work. I walked during breaks, sat alone & listened to music, etc. I got no relief though. You could feel the tension in the air inside the office 8 hours/day, 5 days/week. To make matters even worse, my "mates" were close to my supervisor & she took their side. *sigh* There was nothing that I could do. I tried talking with the friendly co-worker in HR, that quickly went splat as well. It was miserable! I finally gave 2 weeks notice & got the heck out of there. Because, unless I was willing to take a big pay cut as well as work some screwy hours, that company move just wouldn't work.

Now, years later... I can see what I couldn't see then. Different people have different personalities. Sometimes, those personalities clash. It stinks and it's very uncomfortable, I know. But, put up a civil personality, and still do what you know is right & keep working there. A couple of weeks or so may go by with this intense discomfort, but it will pass. Just be firm. Do your job, talk with whomever when you need to, and the snootiness will stop. Not a halting screech, mind you, but it will stop. After a bit, things will be much more comfortable between you as well.

Trust me on this one: do not got to HR and complain again. That move would only intensify the misery. You have to stick it out, with confidence...or get out of the job. Those are your choices. But (trust me on this one), women at work are like that EVERYWHERE. No matter what type of job you're working, at that! It really stinks, doesn't it ladies?! For some unknown reason, some women become very bossy and cruel at times. We just have to hold strong to who we are, and don't give into the B.S. It *will* pass, honey. It will. It's just really hard right now.